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Local StoriesThe Last Word on The Passion
MARBLEHEAD Before the six interfaith clergy members began what will likely be the last North Shore exegesis of The Passion of the Christ at the JCCNS March 31, Executive Director Sandy Sheckman asked how many of the 200 people in attendance had seen the movie. Maybe five hands went up. The clergy members included Brandeis Chaplain Father David Michael, Gordon College Professor Marvin Wilson, Beth Els Rabbi Edgar Weinsberg, Ner Tamids Rabbi David Klatzker, Reverend Dean Pedersen of The First Church in Swampscott and Father John McGinty, Pastor of The Church of the Sacred Heart in Lynn. Father Michael, who began by rhetorically asking how should viewers interpret the film, said it was an accurate distortion of the the Christian-Jewish self-understanding. And because there are four separate Passion narratives John, Paul, Matthew and Luke each offering different details of the crucifixion, artistic interpreters make certain choices about what to include and how characters are portrayed. Comparing Gibsons production to The Titanic and its directors portrayal of Captain Smith, Michael said Gibsons treatment of Pontius Pilate was an example of a conscious choice. One can either highlight or diminish who was responsible for Jesus death, he said. Can the film be an interpretation that is historically accurate? Michael asked. It could be, but in the end, he said The Passion is a blend of historical material with Gibsons imagination. Is the film anti-Semitic? Michael says that while he has a problem with how Jews were portrayed, that question is at the heart of the disconnect between Jews and Christians. He says that the anti-Semitic question, while relevant, is a bad way to ask about the movie because thats when Christian defenses go up and makes the movie only about that issue. Referencing an interview with Diane Sawyer, Michael quoted Gibson as saying, People dont have a problem with me, but with the New Testament. Michael responded by saying, The movie misses no opportunity to focus on brutality not found anywhere in the Gospels, but entirely in Mel Gibsons mind. Dr. Wilson said there are many inaccuracies but he does not consider the film anti-Semitic, nor will it hinder Christian-Jewish relations. Rather, he is encouraged that the film has become a teaching tool and believes it has advanced interfaith relations. Finally, the question is, in religions where the Passion is the central event of the Christian faith, as Torah, Sinai and the Exodus are for the Jewish faith, can we learn from one another? Warning people not to play into the polarity these kind of films create, Wilson emphatically stated that while there are many terrible things in both the Old and New Testament, what we teach about those texts makes all the difference in the world. What we teach about the Passion is absolutely critical, he argued. Of Gibsons agreement with the views of his father Hutton a Holocaust-denier who disagrees with the finding of the Second Vatican Council in 1965 Wilson believes the younger Gibson has not distanced himself from his fathers statements. Why not speak out against any hint of anti-Semitism charges made against him? Wilson asked rhetorically. Rabbi Weinsberg, who said seeing the movie with other clergy members saved my sanity, confessed that he walked out of the theater twice because of the graphic images. As for the movies anti-Semitic content, Weinsberg says he saw it as benign, not anti-Semitic, but it did stress mans inhumanity to man and was the most brutal film ever made. He said it is true that Judas turned Jesus into the High Priest, but that the way it was portrayed was a complete distortion. The High Priests in control of the Roman government? Come on! Rabbi Klatzker said that many people were sobbing in the theater where he saw it, taking Jesus suffering onto themselves. He went on to say that as Jews, We dont see our suffering as redemptive, do not consider it a saving. Reverend Pedersen, one of the clergy members with whom Rabbis Weinsberg and Loevinger saw the movie, said the idea to have the conversation at the JCCNS was good. I appreciated very much the comments everyone made. The questions that came up in my mind had to do with coming to grips with the presence of evil in humanity. It is not just some theoretical idea. I think the movie reminded us all of humanitys responsibility in doing Gods will. Lets be real clear about not engaging in stereotypical thinking, real clear about how we interact as human beings, and real clear about our decision-making process. Father McGinty said that Jews and Christians are seeing two different movies based on their religious and historical understanding. But, he said, It is our duty to to strive to understand what our neighbor is seeing, and that the movie does not lead to further animosity. Underutilized
Local Mikvah Seeks New Members Susan
Jacobs LYNN Using the mikvah is one of just three mitzvot required of Jewish women. They are obligated to make challah, light Shabbos candles, and visit the mikvah. Its such an important mitzvah, and Im just baffled as to why it has been lost in todays society, says Wendy Levites, a volunteer who helps run the only mikvah on the North Shore, Mikvah Bnot Yisroel in Lynn. The tiny mikvah, located behind Congregation Ahabat Sholom, is underutilized. Although it is open to the entire community, only a dozen or so women use it on a regular basis. Levites wishes more women would come and experience it. On the North Shore we have plenty of women involved in Federation, Hadassah and ORT. Where are all these women? asks Levites, who for the past six years has helped pay the bills, take care of the plumbing and heating, and served as one of the mikvah shomerets (guardians who watch people dunk and then say, Amen). I would like to say to these women, If youve never experienced the mikvah, you should try it once, or at least come and look at it. Maybe it will ignite your soul. Maybe it will become a mitzvah for you. Thats what happened to me. You might decide that it is not for you, but at least learn about it and make an educated decision, says Levites. We always tell our children that they have to try at least one bite of the vegetables. They may not like it, but at least they should try it. This is a similar situation, she adds. Historically, a community of Jews is obligated to have, and maintain, a community mikvah. The rules governing its use are quite detailed. According to Jewish law, observant women are required to immerse themselves in the holy water of a ritual bath at sundown before their wedding, after bearing a child, and 12 days after each menstrual period if they are married. A benediction must be recited while in the water. Men are not required to use a mikvah but are permitted to use it during the daytime hours. Levites points out that rabbis from Chelsea and Everett sometimes come to use Mikvah Bnot Yisroel. The only day one is not allowed in the mikvah is Yom Kippur. The use of the mikvah dates back to antiquity, when our Jewish ancestors probably used it to observe laws of family purity. In our modern society, where nearly every home has running water and a bath, a mikvah may seem unnecessary. However people may have other reasons for wanting to immerse themselves in a ritual bath. For example, some women may want to symbolically cleanse themselves after being raped or assaulted, and sometimes divorced or single women, who are not required by Jewish law to enter a mikvah, may elect to do so. According to Levites, Everyone is welcome. We wouldnt turn anyone away. Mikvah Bnot Yisroel differs from others in several ways. Most mikvahs are fully tiled and can be the size of a small pool. Mikvah Bnot Yisroel, which was built more than 50 years ago, is made of concrete and measures approximately 25 square feet. And unlike most mikvahs, it is completely emptied after each use. Levites, who was born and raised on the North Shore, was introduced to the mikvah experience while living in California. I went for the first time in Los Angeles the night before my first marriage. (Levites has subsequently re-married.) At first, it was like walking into Mea Sharim in Israel. I felt like I was in a movie. But I fell in love with it. Today its the thing to do in LA. She
wants local rabbis to discuss the importance of going to the mikvah with
new brides. She is working with Rabbi David Meyer of Temple Emanu-El in
Marblehead (who has volunteered to become a liaison to the Rabbinic Council)
to promote an educational forum on the topic. Although some mikvahs are self-supporting, Mikvah Bnot Yisroel is not. Federation supports it with an allocation of $1,800 per year, and the Robert I. Lappin Foundations generously underwrite the cost of many conversions. There is a nominal fee to use the facility. Suggested donations are $12 for women who use it on a monthly basis, $35 for a bride-to-be who uses it before her wedding, and $75 for a conversion. The donation process is anonymous, and no one is turned away due to lack of funds. Levites would like to see the mikvah become self-supporting. She is asking North Shore Jews to become members of the mikvah. Membership dues are $36 per year, which includes three free immersions. Im asking people in our community to help support the one component that makes our Jewish community kosher and relevant. This doesnt compete with the JCC or Hillel. You need a mikvah in every Jewish community, even if only one person uses it. You can have 500 kosher meat markets, but if you dont have a mikvah, youre not a kosher community. We are lucky to have a mikvah right here in Lynn. Lets support it, says Levites. Mikvah Bnot Yisroel is located behind Congregation Ahabat Sholom, 151 Ocean St., Lynn. To schedule an appointment or to inquire about visiting the mikvah, call 978-594-5550, or 781-595-0080. To make a donation or to become a member of the mikvah, send a check to Mikvah Bnot Yisroel c/o Wendy Levites, 117 Weatherly Dr. #301, Salem, MA 01970. Interfaith Seder Draws 500 Mark
Arnold It
was the largest interfaith seder on the North Shore yet a jumbo
seder in the words of JCC Executive Director Sandy Sheckman. She
was referring to the more than 500 Jews and Christians who attended the
12th Annual ADL Interfaith Passover Seder, held at the Marblehead JCC
on March 25.
North Shore Rabbis Split on Same-Sex Marriage Neil
Zolot Five North Shore rabbis are among the 94 statewide who are publicly supporting civil marriage for same sex couples, and lent their names to ads placed by Massachusetts Rabbis Support the Freedom to Marry supporting civil marriage for gay and lesbian couples. Every person in the Commonwealth deserves equal protection and rights under our laws, read the ad. We recognize that people of faith hold divergent views on the religious definition of marriage Extending civil marriages to same-sex couples will not affect any religious traditions own view or practices. A constitutional amendment denying same-sex couples the right of civil marriage will impose the beliefs of some religions on all people of this state. This is a matter of civil rights and legislation, said Rabbi David Meyer of Temple Emanu-El in Marblehead, one of the local rabbis whose name appeares in the ad. The courts will never compel congregations or clergy to perform marriages that are contrary to their community norms or convictions. Personally, I do not believe that sanctioning same-gender unions foreshadows the breakdown of the family, as many people have direly predicted. Rather, it encourages long-term relationships between two devoted people, and that serves to strengthen, rather than diminish, the ideals of family life. Ive seen the love between same-sex partners and the pain they and their family members have experienced because they are not acknowledged in the same way as heterosexual couples, added Edgar Weinsberg of Conservative Temple Beth El in Swampscott, whose name also appeared in the ad. They are denied the right to have a sanctified life and relationship. Id like to see the state not mix with religion, said Rabbi David Klatzker of Conservative Temple Ner Tamid in Peabody, whose name also appeared on the ad. I dont see why I should be an agent of the state. All marriages should be registered with the state and then up to clergy to perform. The names of Rabbis Howard Kosovske of Reform Temple Beth Shalom in Peabody and Neal Loevinger of Conservative Temple Israel in Swampscott also appeared in the ad. Rabbi Steven Rubenstein of Conservative Temple Bnai Abraham in Beverly did not sign the ad but agrees with its sentiments. I believe the government should allow such licenses to be given, he said. Not all rabbis, however, feel the same way. The Rabbinical Council of America (RCA) and the Union of Orthodox Jewish Congregations of America (OU), the largest rabbinic and synagogue Orthodox Jewish organizations in North America, released recently a statement opposing the practice of same-sex marriage. Said Rabbi Kenneth Auman, president of the Rabbinical Council of America. At Passover, this statement is especially relevant since the Exodus from Egypt was a liberation from not only slavery and infanticide, but a rejection of the sexual, including homosexual, depravity that was sanctioned by Egyptian society as well. Its not the marriage per se that runs contrary to Orthodox Jewish law, its the lifestyle, said Rabbi Yossi Lipsker of Chabad Lubavitch of the North Shore in Swampscott. Its not a new issue. The prime biblical reference to homosexuality is in the Book of Leviticus, Chapter XVIII, verse 22: Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind; it is abomination. For Lipsker, gay marriage doesnt dovetail with the scripture. You dont have to be a rabbi to know it isnt biblically sanctioned, he said. Civil marriage between a man and a woman married under Jewish law is okay. A marriage between two men, I cant say thats okay. If you dont mess with the words, the Torah is pretty clear, added Rabbi Nechemia Schusterman, of Chabads Peabody branch. What the Torah says is still true. (Technically, Leviticus 18:22 would seem not to prohibit lesbian relations, but most orthodox scholars would probably infer it does. The omission is probably the result of sexism, but, the men who wrote it almost certainly had the same attitudes towards lesbianism men do today.) The Torah is quite clear added Rabbi Mordechai Twersky of Orthodox Congregation Ahabat Sholom in Lynn. He called Leviticus 18:22 a clear statement from the Bible that its prohibited. Homosexuality is not condoned. Judaism is not biblical, but rabbinic, based on the bible, countered Rabbi Weinsberg. If youre a literalist and reject the later oral rabbinic tradition, the lens through which we view the Bible, youre a fundamentalist. Over the years the rabbis have interpreted (Leviticus) literally, but with further development throughout our history, our understanding of homosexuality and the human psyche is different from the original authors. These developments are necessary. Changes will come about whether we recognize them or not. He said at one time he also interpreted Leviticus literally, but his position has evolved. I took it as a matter of rabbinic instruction based on Biblical law that gay marriage was prohibited, he remembers. Ive had to rethink my position; Jewish law in every domain of life is evolving and continues to evolve. Rabbi Meyer said prohibitions on same-sex relationships were part of a broad legislation to eradicate idolatry. Many modern scholars have suggested that the Levitical prohibitions against male homosexual acts refer to idolatrous cult prostitution, which was commonplace in the ancient Near East. The homosexual practice spoken about is a different concern than the type of long-term relationships contemplated by the present question of same-sex marriage. Recognition that same-sex relationships carry the same potential for holiness is part of the evolving understanding of Jewish spirituality. Rabbi Klatzker said the word abomination sounds harsh, but was used to refer to other transgressions as well, like eating non-kosher food. The Torah is the first word of Judaism, but not the last, he said. We have the right and responsibility to interpret what the Torah says. It is an evolving process. Citing a 50 percent divorce rate, with gays and lesbians constituting 10 percent of the population at best, he asked, Who are the real enemies of marriage? Traditional religionists are inappropriately obsessed with this issue, he said. Why do we mix this notion of a civil marriage with religion? If civil marriage is sacred, why should atheists be allowed to marry? We have no idea what that word means based on the society in which it was written, Rabbi Rubenstein added about the word abomination. Its up to God to decide if its wrong, not human beings, and I cant speak for God. Rabbi Lipsker disagrees. Nowhere in Jewish law is there a hint that certain times or circumstances affect that reality. Still he recognizes that same-sex civil unions or marriages are not in legal conflict with Jewish law and even finds some common ground. The state is not forcing me, he said. People are exercising their choice. Judaism is about choice. Rabbi Schusterman called the Torah eternal. It has to evolve, but within parameters of Torah law. Laws regarding work changed, but only within the borders of Torah law. He said his personal feelings on the matter are irrelevant and dont free him of his obligation as a spiritual leader to gay members of his congregation. More important than the issue of gay unions is the obligation to love our fellow human beings, he said. Our goal is to show everyone the beauty of Torah and Judaism. Rabbis
and their congregations mirror each other, although Lipsker said theres
a diversity of opinions in Chabad Lubavitch. Schusterman said the issue
makes everyone uncomfortable and has made people take positions
theyd rather shy away from. Weinsberg said hes heard more from the gay children of temple members more than the members themselves, but that members have expressed a desire to have Jewish leaders accept their children. He said under Jewish law, he can only officiate at weddings in accordance with the law of the land, which may change. Were not there yet, he said. Acknowledgement of a relationship of commitment is something many people approve of. Theres a lot of sympathy in liberal Jewish movements. Young Bucks Gather at ADL Event in Boston
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Goldman Appointed to Danvers Savings Bank Board Neal Goldman of Swampscott has been appointed to the Board of Directors at Danvers Savings Bank for a term of 12 years. Goldman, who lives in Swampscott with his wife Linda, is the Vice President of Business Services at Iron Mountain, a Boston-based leader in the records storage and management industry. He holds a Bachelors Degree from Boston University and an MBA from Babson College in Wellesley. Freedman Financial Acknowledged Barry M. Freedman CFP and Marc S. Freedman CFP, a father/son team at Freedman Financial in Peabody, were recently named to LPL Financial Services prestigious Chairmans Club, a status reserved for the top four percent of all representatives. They were honored with close to 500 other LPL advisors from around the United States at a conference in Hawaii. |
Birth Announcement Stacey and Bob Comito of Peabody announce the birth of their son, Joshua Ryan Comito, on February 9 in Salem. Grandparents are Pauline and Vincent Spirito of Lynn, and Robert Comito, Sr. of Nahant and the late Judith Tomas of Peabody. Joshua Ryans Hebrew name is Avraham Chaim. He is named in loving memory of his maternal great-grandparents, Albert and Anita Portnoy.. Scheintaub Honored Hal Scheintaub, a science teacher at Governor Dummer Academy in Byfield, has been nationally recognized for his accomplishments. He will present a paper at the National Association for Research in Science Teachings annual meeting in Vancouver this month. The paper discusses his work with MIT on computer modeling applications in secondary education. During the spring, the MIT group will use Scheintaubs Accelerated Biology class at GDA as a model system to study before the methods developed are applied to curricula in other schools. Dr. Scheintaub has taught at GDA since 1998. |
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Lighthearted Tips For Dating a Jew
Susan
Jacobs
Jewish Journal Staff
What to Do When Youre Dating a Jew: Everything You Need to Know from Matzah Balls to Marriage, by Vikki Weiss and Jennifer A. Block, Three Rivers Press, 2000, paperback $12.
Jennifer Block and Vikki Weiss bonded while working together in the marketing department at Wells Fargo Bank in San Francisco. As Jennifer recalls, Vikki came over and said, Youre Jewish, arent you? I replied that I was, and then she said, I bet your boyfriend isnt. It was really psychic.
The two became friends. Although Jennifer had grown up in Andover and Vikki was from Glencoe, IL, a suburb of Chicago, they had similar backgrounds. Both had been raised as Reform Jews. Both were bat mitzvahed. And both preferred dating non-Jewish boys.
Much to the chagrin of her Jewish mother, Vikkis two sisters and one brother had married outside the faith and Vikki seemed headed down the same path. Although they had a Jewish wedding in 1998, Jennifers husband Dave Martin was a non-practicing Methodist. Many of Vikki and Jennifers friends were involved in interfaith relationships. The two women realized there was a need for a lighthearted yet practical guidebook to explain Jewish culture and religion to the non-Jews they loved.
In the preface of their book, they discuss how Megan Kelly (a non-Jew) met her future in-laws, the Greensteins, at a kosher deli. She ordered a ham and cheese sandwich. They realized that there were a lot of Megans out there who needed a book to prevent them from looking like a putz in front of their Jewish in-laws.
So Jennifer and Vikki decided to write the definitive guide. They did research and conducted interviews to determine what was real tradition, and what were simply stories their parents had told them. Chapters evolved, such as, From Bris to Brandeis: Growing Up Jewish, and Have a Little More Brisket, Darling: Food is Love.
Their goal was to help non-Jews feel more at-ease in social situations with Jews at shul, at a shiva, or at the seder table. Although their target audience initially was non-Jews, many Jews who read the manuscript picked up some tidbits and enjoyed it as a refresher course.
The book has a broad audience, admits Jennifer, who is 34. Jews buy it for themselves. Parents buy it for their kids as a hint. People give it as an engagement or wedding gift.
In a light and breezy style, Jennifer and Vikki discuss all the major (and minor) Jewish holidays including foods generally consumed and the props that are used. Although the book doesnt claim to be completely comprehensive, it seems to cover everything from knishes to kreplach, and Hanukkah gelt to oy gevalt!
Fun facts, humorous snippets and recipes are woven into the text so that readers can glean knowledge (and a chuckle) on nearly every page. It is peppered with quotes from famous Jews, including, for example, Lenny Bruces comments on what is Jewish and what is goyish (New York City is Jewish; Butte, Montana, is goyish. Chocolate is Jewish; Kool-Aid is goyish.)
Jennifer, who no longer works for Wells Fargo, is a full-time freelance writer who pens magazine articles, creates marketing copy, and has edited several other books including How to Plan and Organize Just About Everything, due out in October. Vikki, 35, still works in marketing at the bank. Much to her mothers delight and Jennifers surprise, she recently got engaged to a nice (gasp) Jewish fellow.
The women have contemplated writing another Jewish-themed book but are not actively collaborating on anything. We made the mistake of putting everything into this book, sighs Jennifer.
Jennifers
parents were initially concerned that the book might perpetuate negative
Jewish stereotypes. And critics complain that the books irreverent
style makes light of a heavy subject. A dissatisfied reader from Studio
City, CA, wrote, The whole point of this book is to help you figure
out how to pass in Jewish culture and society. It is peppered
with cutesy bits of advice and little stories about how someone charmed
the Jew-of-their-dreams into forgetting thatheythey arent
actually Jewish. Interfaith dating and marriage is a serious issue and
deserves thoughtful consideration, not charming anecdotes.
But Jennifer defends her book, insisting that it helps those in interfaith
relationships. Christianity is so dominant in our culture. This
book offers a way to keep Judaism in the house and keep the Jewish flame
alive. It also helps Jews learn more about their own religion, she
states.
The book is available at most national book stores and many independent bookstores. It can also be ordered online
Young Jewish Entrepreneurs
Susan
Jacobs
Jewish Journal Staff
Editors Note: This is a part of an ongoing series of profiles about young Jewish entrepreneurs on the North Shore.
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Former Lawyer Prefers Working with Linens Kate
Friedman How old are you? Ill forever be 29, but actually, Im 36. Please
describe your business. How long has it been in existence? The business has been in existence since around 1980. I bought the business in 1997 from the original owner, who retired and moved to Florida. What motivated you to choose this particular career? Im
actually trained as an attorney. My family is full of lawyers, and
I did as I was told and became one as well. For several years I
worked at a law firm in Saugus handling bankruptcies, personal injuries
and divorce, but I found law to be a less-than-satisfying career.
I didnt see too many happy people, and I felt I could never
do enough for them. What was your training/ education? I have an undergraduate degree from Brandeis, and I graduated from Boston University Law School in 1992. I dont have an MBA, and Ive always wondered if I should get one. When you own your own business, you do everything from marketing to taking out the trash. I trained with the previous owner of Party Cloths before she left. But there is a lot of trial and error. Every day I learn something new, which keeps it fun. What hesitations or concerns did you have when starting your business? The lack of a steady paycheck was an immediate concern. In this business, you dont reap financial rewards immediately. But being an entrepreneur, you have the opportunity to be a great success. There is room to grow. You dont have that same opportunity working for someone else. What were some of the hurdles you faced when you first started out? I was nervous about whether I would be a success. I didnt want to fall on my face. You also have to learn what sells. Although I have racks of linen in every color, size and shape and my inventory is always growing, people will invariably request something you dont have. When I first started out, I had a customer who wanted paisley tablecloths for her event. I bought them and havent rented them out since. I have learned that sometimes it just doesnt pay to invest in items that can only be used once. For example: I recently got a call from a customer in North Carolina who wanted 90 yellow and white striped tablecloths. I know that Ill never use them again, and so although I hate to turn down business, I had to say no. The flip side of this is that somebody several years ago wanted organza. I bought them, and now its a popular part of our specialty linen. What are some of the obstacles or challenges that you face now in your business? I
find that the toughest challenge is how to be both a good mother
and a professional female business owner. My husband Mark and I
have two sons; one is four, the other is just three months old.
In this business, you work nights and weekends. I try to keep the
family and business separate, but its not easy. The clients
have to come first. You cant say to a bride who is expecting
her linen to be delivered on a Saturday morning, My child
is sick. Has being Jewish had any influence on your business? My husband and I are both active in the Jewish community. We belong to a temple and our son goes to the JCC. Im on the board of the Womens Division of Federation and am involved with the ADL. Mark is involved with the JRC. You would think with all these connections, Id have more Jewish business. But surprisingly, most of our events are not Jewish. I get a lot of referrals from hotels, country clubs and function halls. I dont do as much business at the local temples as I would like, but I keep trying. What are your plans for the future? Were always looking to expand our business. We have a website, and we get inquiries from people all over the United States. Although the majority of our work is in-state, I have shipped linen via UPS to Montana, Rhode Island and Maine. There are two upcoming events that I think will really help our business. The first is the Democratic National Convention in Boston. I have plenty of red, white and blue tablecloths and chair covers. The other event on the horizon is the possibility of legal same-sex marriages. This could provide us with more potential clients. Anything else? I believe I have a responsibility as a Jewish professional to give back to the community. When not-for-profit groups need something affordable, I try to work with them. I cant give away everything for free because my business would suffer and then I wouldnt have the money to make my pledges to Federation and other organizations I support. But I try to do everything I can to help the community. |
Bar/Bat Mitzvah Trainer Targets Interfaith Families Seth
Novoselsky How old are you? Im 29. Please describe your business. I take kids who are not affiliated with a temple and offer them the opportunity to train for a bar or bat mitzvah. We generally work together for 4-12 months preparing for the event, which I often officiate at. The kids live all over the North Shore, so I must travel to Lynnfield, Middleton, Peabody or wherever they are. I would estimate that 80 percent of my business comes from interfaith families where one of the parents had a bar or bat mitzvah, and they want their kid to have one as well since they view it as a rite of passage. How long has it been in existence? Ive officially had the business for four years, but I have actually been teaching bar mitzvah trope since I was 14. What motivated you to choose this particular career? I grew up in a dwindling Jewish community in Revere where my mother gave private Hebrew lessons. As time went on, she referred the students to me. I personally studied one and a half years for my bar mitzvah, so I was able to teach it at a young age. I did it as a sideline thing for several years and got most of my clients via word-of-mouth. But I put an ad in the Jewish Journal in 2001, and I was flooded with phone calls. What was your training/ education? I started out at Chelsea Hebrew Academy and then went to Maimonides. For college, I went to NYU and graduated in 1996 with a degree in Political Science and Judaic Studies. What hesitations or concerns did you have when starting your business? I didnt have any reservations about teaching, but I was worried about spending money I didnt have on advertising. What were some of the hurdles you faced when you first started out? Some of the temples thought I was trying to take away business from them, but lets face it, there are many reasons why certain families dont join a temple. Im not trying to take people away from temples we need temples to keep religion going. Im trying to bring Judaism into the lives of those who are unaffiliated. What are some of the obstacles or challenges that you face now in your business? Although I enjoy providing this service, it is virtually impossible to turn it into a fulltime career. Teens go to school until 2:30 p.m., and then many of them have extracurricular activities or sports. I have to meet with most of them in the evenings or on weekends, so I am limited in the number of hours I can teach. Its unfortunate that this work will not sustain me as a full-time career. I must supplement my income with other work. I am currently employed at Revere High School, but I have also worked as a government employee and grant writer. Has being Jewish had any influence on your business? Obviously it has. But I deal with a lot of interfaith couples. I am in an interfaith marriage myself my wife is Catholic. I think this makes my clients feel more comfortable, and it helps me relate to their concerns. I am also licensed to perform weddings, and unlike a lot of rabbis, I have no problem performing religious interfaith marriages customized for each couple. I personally wanted a priest and rabbi at my wedding, but my mother would have had a heart attack. So my wife and I were married by a friend in a civil ceremony. Although it was nice, we both felt that there was something missing. Judaism and Catholicism have thousands of years of tradition and history that both partners grow up with. It would have been nice to incorporate some of it in our marriage ceremony. I also fully support gay marriage, even though I am a registered Republican. I have no problem performing gay marriages, which a lot of clergy and justices of the peace wont do. What
are your plans for the future? Anything else? This career is not going to make me rich, but thats not why Im in it. I enjoy bringing Judaism into peoples lives. If I could afford to do this for nothing, I would. |
Straight Talk from the South Beach Diet Doctor
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Off the Processed Foods
The
South Beach Diet advocates eating as few processed foods, such as
white bread, white pasta and commercial baked goods, as possible.
Agatstons quarrel with most carbs we consume today is that
they have been overly processed, stripped of almost all healthy
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Soriya
Daniels
Special to The Jewish Journal
Carbohydrate-filled days are over. Everyone is on the Atkins or Zone Diet, or so it seems. That is, if they havent deserted it for the South Beach Diet. The South Beach Diet proposes eating the right carbs and the right fats along with protein, giving dieters the best of both worlds.
This popular diet doesnt count calories or severely restrict the kinds of foods you can eat. And although its name brings to mind buff, bikini-clad bodies parading Miamis hip beach, it was developed by cardiologist Dr. Arthur Agatston, a pioneer in non-invasive coronary artery imaging, who wanted to offer a palatable, safe diet for his chronically overweight heart patients.
My concern was not with my patients appearance, he says. I wanted to find a diet that would help prevent or reverse the myriad of heart and vascular problems that stem from obesity.
He never found such a diet, so he developed one himself and in doing so, he also created an overnight sensation among South Beachs body-conscious beach-goers.
Why? Agatstons plan claims to help you shed pounds fast right from the waistline and belly. His scientifically-based program promises immediate results, helping dieters shed 10, 20, or 30 pounds, while radically changing their blood chemistry, reversing pre-diabetes, lowering cholesterol, and averting a range of chronic illnesses and conditions.
Our thesis is really that the processing of food in America has caused the epidemic of obesity and diabetes, Agatston explained. And unfortunately, Jewish Ashkenazic genes are very well represented in that epidemic.
The South Beach Diet is based on eating three balanced meals a day. To keep dieters from feeling deprived, it also suggests several snacks and dessert after dinner.
The doctors message is clear: You can count calories or omit an entire food group for a while, but you cant turn it into a lifestyle.
Surprisingly, Agatstons diet does not require exercise. It does require a long-term commitment, however. And with the long haul in mind, there are no absolute restrictions on the diet except during the first phase, which spans only a couple of weeks.
The South Beach Diet is said to prevent cancer by incorporating ample vegetables and fruits into the regimen. For example, the lycopene in tomatoes is known to thwart prostate cancer.
There are so many phytochemicals in fruits and vegetables, and we thought we could isolate them into a few vitamins and give supplements, but that hasnt worked, he says. You need the natural stuff.
That is the diet in its essence: returning to natural, whole foods the kinds our primitive ancestors would have eaten.
Besides trading white flour for its whole grain counterpart, looking to the sea for sustenance is another place to start. Agatston calls Omega-3 oils, largely found in seafood, the missing ingredient in the Western diet. Another problem of our Western diet, he says, is that farm-fed animals, including fish, do not have as much Omega-3s as the free-range variety.
Omega-3 oils, which we emphasize, have been shown to be helpful for depression, arthritis and colitis. I think Omega-3s are helpful for a lot of conditions, he explained, adding, When I talk about Omega-3s, I feel like a fish oil salesman!
Another tenet of the South Beach Diet: Its not just what you eat; its how you eat it. The faster the sugars and starches you eat are processed and absorbed into your bloodstream, the fatter you get, Agatston said. Therefore, anything that speeds the process by which your body digests carbohydrates is bad for your diet, and anything that slows it down is good. In short, the more food is processed, the more fattening it will be.
According to the doctor, a baked potato will be less fattening topped with a dollop of low-fat cheese or sour cream than it would be if eaten plain. The calorie count will be slightly higher, but the fat contained in the cheese or sour cream will slow down the digestive process, thereby lessening the amount of insulin that potato prompts your body to make.
Surprisingly,
he points out that even French fries are better than baked potatoes, because
the fat in which they are cooked slows down the digestive process.
Dont be misled: None of these are good choices for someone on the
South Beach Diet.
To help dieters learn the tricks of the trade, namely glycemic indexes and discerning the good carbs and fats from the bad, Rodale Books (the South Beach Diet publisher) recently published a companion reference book, Good Fats, Good Carbs Guide. As a complement to his #1 New York Times bestseller, Dr. Agatston offers more than 200 recipes in The South Beach Diet Cookbook.
While pleased with the success of his books, they are not Dr. Agatstons foremost accomplishment.
My most rewarding experience was watching the expansion of the heart scan, which I believed in and developed in 1988, he says. Several years later, at an international meeting of physicians, everyone started referring to it as The Agatston Score. Embarrassed at the time, today the cardiologist is proud of the acceptance of his methodology and its ability to detect early heart disease before the first heart attack.
When not practicing medicine or counseling on nutritional matters (and writing books) Agatston enjoys sports with his wife, Sari, and their two teenage sons. The Agatston family supports an array of Jewish causes and the doctor speaks at a variety of Jewish events.
I am very much keeping my day job, says Agatston with a warm smile.
Smulowitz Productions Presents The Diary of Anne Frank
Gary
Band
Jewish Journal Staff
Two months before Anne Frank would have turned 75 (June 12), Anna Smulowitz will direct a play based on the famous diary honoring the unrealized potential of Franks life. The play, The Diary of Anne Frank by F. Goodrich, A. Hackett and newly adapted by W. Kesselman, will be performed at The Tannery in Newburyport beginning April 16.
Another reason for the plays showing now is its proximity to Yom Hashoah, (Holocaust Remembrance Day) and the recent release of the unabridged version of the diary. It was initially published though not in its entirety by her father, Otto Frank, who wanted to protect Annes legacy by not printing some of the more personal passages about her sexual identity, her feelings for Peter von Don, and the relationship with her mother. But upon Ottos recent death, Wendy Kesselman, editor of the Definitive Edition of the Diary of Anne Frank, included the previously omitted material.
Smulowitz, who directed a version of the play for her senior project as a drama major at the University of Kentucky in 1969, has been producing and directing original and popular musical productions in the Merrimack Valley for 25 years. Her play Terezin, which in the last 10 years was performed at 25 schools a year, ran off and on in the US, Poland and Germany since 1982.
I have a past relationship with the Anne Frank play, but now its a very different production, Smulowitz says. I really like the inclusion. Making her a real kid is valuable for us to identify with her as a very normal girl. I think some people worried that it doesnt make her a perfect girl, but we didnt get to know this Anne Frank for 50 years.
Smulowitz herself has an intimate knowledge of the Holocaust. The daughter of Auschwitz survivors, she was born in a displaced persons camp near Dachau in 1945.
When I first read the Diary in 1959, I didnt realize that she would have been a young 30-year old had she survived, Smulowitz recalls. She is my contemporary. She was born in pre- and I in post-war Germany. Both Annes father and mine survived Auschwitz. We both wanted to be writers. Anne was concerned with the fate of humanity in a time of war. This production is timely because many people these days are deeply concerned about our present war and how children from both sides will be affected.
The play, in two acts, stars two Annes, Gray Wilking, whos Jewish, and Ivy Smith, who is not.
Its such a wonderful part, Smulowitz says. Everyone wants the opportunity to play Anne. Gray and Ivy are the top students at my theatre school. Ive been working with them since they were little. Even at age 6, I could tell they were destined for greatness.
The two 15-year old girls perform on alternate nights. Their voices, recorded at a local radio station, are heard reading from the diary in between scenes; and, overhead projections of the actual Anne and her family, along with video footage of the bookcase hiding the secret annex, are also shown at different points throughout the production.
This play was originally performed on Broadway with Israeli-born Natalie Portman in the role of Anne.
Gray Wilking, a freshman at Ipswich High School, rehearses three times a week and says she is undaunted by the demanding role.
Anna
has been my acting teacher for a while. Shes a great director. She
gives us a lot of background information and helps us get into character.
Wilking read the Diary during her role in a production of Terezin,
and is also familiar with other books and poems dealing with the Holocaust.
Of this performance, she says the small theater works really well
to give the feeling of being in the annex. There are many sad parts, but
a lot of comic relief.
In terms of her characters hopefulness, Wilking said that even though
she knows how it ends, when speaking some of Annes lines, she felt
and believed that they would emerge from the annex alive.
As for the message of the play, Wilking says, Its important to raise awareness of anti-Semitism and accept other people. It was a huge tragedy to see that hatred killed so many people. Its good to look at the past to change the future.
Joel Grossman of West Newbury, a retired psychotherapist and a volunteer chaplain who worked with Smulowitz 24 years ago on a production of The Legend of Sleepy Hollow, plays Mr. von Don for half the productions.
I was drawn to this play because I come from a Jewish world that doesnt talk about the Holocaust, and Anna is from the other side. Its important for the Jewish community to not only remember what happened then, but that theres always the dark side of humanity going on around the world, and to recognize the impact on people.
As for his role, Grossman says one of the main things his character exhibits is the way Mr. von Don deals with fear and tension. Each character had another way of showing the difficulty of dealing with the situation. Mine tended towards uptightness, complaining and generally antagonistic behavior.
The remarkable thing is that Anne is the one person who has hope and that draws upon spiritual viewpoints that she came to on her own. Her spirit kept everyone going.
The Diary of Anne Frank will be performed April 16, 17, 18, 23, 24, 25 and May 1 and 2. For tickets and showtimes, call 978-463-3348.
Telling Fables in Glass The Fabulist
Ilya
Ablavsky
Special to The Jewish Journal
The Fabulist, by Stephen Glass, published by Simon & Schuster, New York, 2003, 339 pages, $24.00.
Before being fired from his position as a writer for The New Republic for fabricating much of his work, Stephen Glass took another audacious step.
In publishing The Fabulist, a work barely disguised as fiction, Glass portrays the pressures that a journalist in his position faces and seeks to explain why he acted as he did. It also becomes clear why the system in which he operated could not defend against an assault upon its integrity.
Glasss decision to publish this novel raises an ethical question. Clearly, Glass profits from the original unethical conduct. Yet his is a story where motivations are crucial and his observations on the journalistic community are indeed unique. Also, his book addresses the basic question of whether a reputation (especially as it pertains to honesty in journalism) can ever be repaired after it is destroyed.
The personal dimensions of these events the authors sharp turn from fame to infamy were great as well. The author, whose story is now well known as a result of the recent movie, Shattered Glass, curiously uses his own name in the novel. He draws the reader into an intriguing conflict between cynicism and the belief in personal change and growth.
The substance of the hypothetical article that catches the eye of Glasss editor as possibly false does not merely border on the absurd; it is absurd. He writes about a growing group of lottery winners who are planning to sue state governments that sponsor gambling, blaming the lottery for their spending habits and financial ruin that follows.
Aside from the story being false, there is Glasss pathetic defense of it with a futile (although creative) idea to spin outright lies as sloppiness. That attempt is particularly ironic, as it would seem far more natural for a journalist to avoid the image of sloppiness as opposed to using it as an excuse. The lengths to which Glass goes to protect his fabrications are indeed amazing: setting up voicemails so his editor can verify non-existent sources, creating phony newsletters and web pages, and letting his brother (a student at Dartmouth) play the role of his source. Finally, when the editor attempts to verify his story, he takes him for a drive to look for its nonexistent settings.
At all times Glass has a conscience and much of the book is an internal morality dialogue. He wants to stop lying and this desire drives the plot beautifully. However, in some ways the novel is narcissistic, as he is the only character thoroughly described. Along the way, Glass is frightened at his belief that he is somehow constitutionally unable to tell the truth.
The book has a comical element, as Glass is from a Jewish family from Chicago in which his parents debate openly whether his girlfriends mother is a yenta and therefore should not be confided in.
There is also the amusing question of whether a friendship can be taken back retroactively, as one of Glasss colleagues wants to do. The Fabulist is unusual and worth reading perhaps because it mirrors true events that are more dramatic than most fiction.
The Passover Story and the Struggle for Freedom
Passover is the Jewish festival of freedom. It celebrates Gods liberation
of our forefathers from slavery in Egypt under the leadership of his servant
Moses. At our Passover seder, we retell the centuries-old Passover story,
emphasizing to our children that each generation should look upon
ourselves as if we came forth from Egypt.
In preparation, we clean our homes of unleavened foods, remembering that the ancient Israelites left Egypt so quickly that the bread they were making did not have time to rise. And we eat unleavened bread for the eight days of the holiday as a reminder of the time when we were not free.
Its a beautiful holiday, with meaningful rituals. But beyond the rituals is the essential message of Passover: Its an ode to universal freedom, and it helps us remember that even in the 21st Century, not everyone is as free as we are.
Relatively few people in the world live in actual slavery today, the kind we read about in our Passover Haggadah. But millions of people remain enslaved by tyranny, poverty, hunger, and disease. Millions more suffer from racial, religious, or sex discrimination. In many Moslem countries, schoolchildren are taught to hate those deemed non-believers, including Jews and Christians.
Egypt, scene of the Jewish liberation, is today one of Israels least hostile neighbors. But hate finds its way into all Egyptian schools, regular and religious nonetheless. A new study of Egyptian textbooks by the Center for Monitoring the Impact of Peace, part of the American Jewish Committee, concludes: In the context of the Middle East conflict, the ongoing violence in the Holy Land is termed jihad, (and) Jerusalem is destined to be liberated by jihad.
As we break the matzah to celebrate the deliverance of the Jewish people from bondage to the Land of Israel, we should remember the broken souls still enslaved around the world. And we should say a prayer that one day soon they will be able to rejoice in their own freedom.
Googles Anti-Semitic Website Listing
As its very first listing under the keyword Jew, Google, the worlds leading internet search engine, carrries an overtly anti-Semitic website: Jew Watch. When you click on that website, you find yourself on jewwatch.com, which offers 27 categories of information. Among them: Jewish-Zionist-Soviet Anti-American Spies, Jewish Communist Rulers and Killers, Jewish Terrorists, Jewish Controlled Press, Jewish Genocides Today and Yesterday, and Jewish World Conspiracies.
Jew
Watch describes itself as a not-for-profit library for private study,
scholarship, or research. Some study. Some scholarship. Opponents
of the site are mounting an online petition asking Google to remove the
site from its index. You can add your protest to Google by clicking on
removejewwatch.com.
Mark R. Arnold
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Question: Why would a Jewish Journal columnist want to hug and say thanks to the man or woman who was the first to sit at a phone console in India and answer: Hello, this is Dell technical services, may I help you?
Answer: For the past 20 years, I have argued that private corporations who downsized, moved manufacturing facilities across the country, outsourced major parts of the production, and had no respect for rank-and-file employees, would destroy the well-known American work ethic. Loyalty to job and company, belief in the value of hard work these would become the way it used to be, I feared. And we have been hurting real people in the process.
Similarly, I have been telling anyone who would listen about how our governments contracting out of jobs and responsibilities, and privatizing whole segments of government work, would be the downfall of public management and the ruination of government as a decent and important employer.
Few people cared to listen. Yet, within days of outsourcing technical jobs to India, many Americans were saying: Hey, I paid American dollars for this computer and service, and I am talking to someone in India? Not right. Then somebody woke up and said: Unemployment is rising in the states and these big companies are shipping out jobs to people on the other side of the world. Not good.
While
the earlier trend was to move to the U.S. South, beginning with manufacturing
jobs more than a generation ago, now the direction is toward China. WalMart
has moved from selling U.S.-made products to selling China-made. Levi
Strauss recently closed its last two American manufacturing plants, and
the American Flyer Red Wagon, made in Chicago for 85 years, is moving
manufacturing to China.
When a government agency does it, its called contracting out.
And when a government gives an entire function to a private corporation,
it is privatization. Contracting out to private companies
began with jobs like office cleaning staff.
Now some government agencies pay outsiders to prepare programs, budgets, computer operations, and virtually everything else. Instead of doing the work, government employees are becoming contract administrators. But in some agencies, outside contractors are hired to supervise other outside contractors.
Politicians
can blame themselves. Since the 1970s, every election was filled with
promises to reduce the size of government. Too many employees. But work
needed doing, so the practice became contracting out. Contractors did
not show up in the government employment statistics. And the government
promised that it would cost less.
Does it really cost less? Are private corporations more efficient or effective?
Given the corporate scandals of the last three years, I wouldnt
trust a CEO earning $100 million dollars a year to babysit with my poodle
if I had a poodle. One thing you can bet on is that the lower-level
employees working for the corporation are paid less than government employees
and receive minimal social benefits like health insurance and retirement.
Is that the kind of America we want?
In the United States, over 100 prisons are privatized: run lock, stock and punishment, by private businesses. The Corrections Corporation of America is the oldest and largest, with about 65,000 beds in 64 facilities. Opponents of privatizing prisons call it the prison-industrial complex.
Last week, a Knesset committee in Israel gave approval to privatize its first prison. The successful bidder will build, staff, maintain and incarcerate anyone the Israeli prison authorities send to it.
Too bad a host of ethical, practical, political and economic issues have not been adequately dealt with by the public, let alone the politicians or specialists, either in the United States or in Israel.
Schlemiels Open House: A Lesson in Yiddish
ELLEN GOLUB
Ellen Golub teaches journalism at Salem State College.She can be reached at elkele@attbi.com
.My father has been telling me for years: Lock your doors. I used to, but we lose keys the way some people eat potato chips. We buy whole bags of them, and in two minutes theyre gone. So the door stayed open, for years.
Arent
you afraid someone will come in while youre not home? my dad
would ask, suggesting were a little loose with our valuables.
What do we have here that someone could steal? I would repeat.
The piano? A couch? If someone needs it, let them take whatever
they want.