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Optimistic on Gibsons Passion GARY
BAND Amidst the near hysteria of criticism and speculation on the alleged anti-Semitic content of Mel Gibsons The Passion of The Christ due out in theaters nationwide Feb. 25 Dr. Marvin Wilson of Gordon College in Wenham has a different take. Though he has not seen an advance of the controversial production, he dismisses assertions that the film will increase anti-Semitism and reawaken the Christ-killer charge during this time of heightened anti-Jewish activity around the world. I think people can reflect on a film like this without hitting the wall, Wilson said in a telephone interview from his office at Gordon. Though he allows that the film may be polarizing, in some parts of the country, on the North Shore we can see the film and do some serious interacting, getting beyond anti-Semitism to more important things that Christian-Jewish relations ought to be about, he said. Wilson, who has long been a leader of interfaith relations and is the author of Our Father Abraham: Jewish Roots of the Christian Faith, disagrees that the film may resurrect the Christ killer charge and increase anti-Semitism. If some Christians or non-Jews want an excuse to be anti-Semitic, they dont have to go to Mel Gibsons film, he said. Rabbi Howard Kosovske, chair of the North Shore Rabbinical Association, said I only know what Ive read in the newspapers, but it seems the movie has the potential to divide Jews and Christians, and that is a cause for concern. A depiction of the last 12 hours of Jesus Christs life, the $25 million production in Latin and Aramaic with English subtitles is financed entirely by the actor, whose screen credits include the Lethal Weapon series, Braveheart and Signs, to name just a few. Gibson is also a Catholic Traditionalist, an offshoot of Catholicism that rejects the reforms of Vatican II in 1965, which, among other things, repudiated the charge of deicide against the Jews. It is, according to Wilson, a small and strict Catholic group that doesnt necessarily take their cues from mainstream Catholicism. The Anti-Defamation League, led by Abe Foxman who snuck in and saw the film being screened for evangelical Protestants in Orlando, Fla., by registering as a representative of The Church of Truth says the movie blames Jews for the death of Jesus by repeatedly showing the Jewish high priest calling for Jesus death, supported by large crowds of Jews. In a statement, Foxman said, At every single opportunity, Gibsons film reinforces the notion that the Jewish authorities and the Jewish mob are the ones ultimately responsible for the crucifixion. A Boston Globe article by Michael Paulson reported that leadership of the Jewish Community Relations Council, the ADL and Combined Jewish Philanthropies, concerned with the reaction once the film is released, met recently with Archbishop Sean P. OMalley. He has not seen the film either and declined to comment. According to an article in the New York Times, Gibson agreed to remove from the film a line from the Gospel of Matthew in which a Jewish crowd says, His blood be on us and our children. Asked how he interprets the line, Wilson says it is just a reaction from someone in the crowd, not inspired words of God. We have to distinguish between what the bible reports and what it teaches, he said. That text is not teaching that Jews will continue to suffer. Ultimately, Wilson calls Passion one persons interpretation of the gospel record, and says that what [Gibson] incudes is not what everyone believes. I dont think he is not particularly concerned about the findings of higher critical scholarship. Jewish
Rehabilitation Center to Stay Kosher for Now MARK
ARNOLD and GARY BAND Faced with near unanimous criticism from community leaders, the Jewish Rehabilitation Center (JRC) in Swampscott has decided to remain a kosher-only facility for the time being. In a statement February 6, the facility reaffirmed its policy of serving only food certified as kosher to its 160 long-term residents, about 120 of whom are Jewish. The Board of Directors on January 22 had authorized JRC officers to reconsider the rule in light of the findings of a recent food service survey of residents and their families. The survey, which inquired about resident food preferences in a range of areas, found that most residents did not regard having kosher food as a priority. Many residents preferred the greater variety that non-kosher foods would permit, officials said. In its last issue, January 30,the Journal carried a page one story about the review underway at the JRC Shortly thereafter, adverse reactions began to set in. Deborah M. Ponn, president of the Jewish Federation of the North Shore, read a statement at the Federation board meeting February 3, saying: Having a kosher nursing home a facility where all Jews will be comfortable is essential to our community. She added that the JRC was willing to meet with JRC leadership to help keep the facility kosher. A letter from 13 members of the North Shore Rabbinical Association forwarded before the JRC reaffirmed the kosher rule questioned the need for a review and called on JRC leaders to maintain kashrut (See full text, page 12). Said the group, which represents all Orthodox, Conservative, and Reform clergy on the North Shore: We are not impressed by the survey that supposedly shows that many of the residents do not care if their kitchen is kosher. There is no inconsistency in requiring a communal institution like the JRC to be more stringent about kashrut than most of the Jews on the North Shore are in their own lives....By maintaining a high level of kashrut, the JRC demonstrates its inclusiveness and its respect for Jewish tradition. The JRC decision not to change the rule on kashrut came after the Massachusetts Senate, February 5, followed the Houses lead and voted to restore a $600,000 subsidy to offset the higher costs of food at the states eight kosher nursing homes. Under pressure to trim costs, Gov. George Romney had vetoed the subsidy passed by the legislature. With both houses voting overwhelmingly to override the veto unanimously in the House, with only one dissenting voice in the Senate the money will be restored shortly. JRC
officials estimate it costs $100,000 more to maintain kashrut at their
facility, but their statement insisted that financial considerations were
not a factor in their reasoning. Rather, they say its a matter of
meeting the changing needs of their residents. Thus, while its announcement
said the facility would maintain its kosher kitchen for the time
being, it also said the JRC would implement a number of other improvements
identified through the survey. No one returned repeated calls from the
Journal to discuss what those changes might be. For a time, JRC leaders considered keeping kosher food for those that wanted it but offering non-kosher food to all other residents. Given the small size of its kitchen, however, it was found impractical to run separate kitchens. This option would probably have required bringing in food, whether fresh or frozen, for either the kosher or non-kosher residents. The override votes were supported by Bostons Jewish Community Relations Council, working with nursing home directors, including JRC CEO Stephen Roizen and leaders of Bostons Jewish community. Efforts were coordinated on Beacon Hill by the JCRC. Said JCRC Executive Director Nancy Kaufman: We worked very hard to ensure there would be a continuation of kosher food in nursing homes. Senate Majority Leader Fred Berry took pleasure in the margin of his Senate victory, saying: $600,000 is a small price to pay to allow senior citizens to practice their religion. I am just disappointed that Governor Romney does not feel the same way. Locally, the flap was summed up by Rabbi Edgar Weinsberg of Temple Beth El in Swampscott this way: Its good to know we are keeping the J in JRC. As He Moves Toward the Nomination, Kerry Appeals to Jews, Arabs RON
KAMPEAS WASHINGTON
Following decisive victories in Tennessee and Virginia, John Kerry
has won 12 of the 14 primary contests and seems on his way to capturing
the Democratic nomination. Both appearances had a salutary effect on caucus night Jan. 19, when the majority of both Iowa's Jews and Arabs helped the Massachusetts senator come out the clear winner. It's a pattern repeating itself nationwide. Emerging as the front-runner in the race for the Democratic presidential nomination, Kerry appeals to competing constituencies otherwise at odds in the battle for the Democratic soul. He is a friend to Jews and Arabs; a storied veteran of both the Vietnam War and of the movement that ended it; a fiscal conservative and an advocate of government spending for the disenfranchised; an opponent of President Bush's handling of the Iraq War; and a supporter of an assertive U.S. posture in the Persian Gulf. Kerry's positions on the Israel-Palestinian conflict are a study in his facility for casting his speeches according to his audience, and filling them with knowledgeable terms and detailed anecdotes. His Jewish stump speech delivered with vigor and passion, with barely a pause cites the Roosevelt administration's decision to turn away a ship of Jews fleeing Nazi-occupied Europe as a failure of U.S. policy he would never repeat. He says he stood atop Masada and felt the echoes of Jewish resistance call to him. He shouts, extending each syllable with his broad Brahmin vowels: Am Yisrael Chai! One on one, Kerry, 60, exudes athletic energy, even returning to play ice hockey since his treatment a year ago for prostate cancer. On the campaign trail, he often stoops over his interlocutors to look them straight in the eye. He never raises his voice. Arab Americans thrill not just at his condemnation of Israel's security barrier We do not need another barrier to peace but at how he says he arrived at his conclusion. Speaking at an Arab American Institute conference in Dearborn, Mich., in October, he described how in the West Bank he witnessed Palestinian women, traveling on foot, forced to stand in long lines at checkpoints with their children tugging at their sleeves and their arms loaded with groceries. Newman Abuissa, who organized support for Kerry among American Arabs in Cedar Rapids and who is now a Kerry delegate from Iowa, says, He dealt with the Arab issue on a personal level; he knows names and events. Across the state in Des Moines, another Kerry delegate, Paulee Lipsman, echoes the same sentiment from the Jewish perspective: He has a good grasp of Jewish history, and understands the historical aspects of where we are today. People who have known Kerry a long time say that such diversity is natural to any Boston politician, who has to deal with large ethnic communities. That includes a Jewish community of 275,000, about 4.5 percent of the state's total population, and one that reflects the spectrum of U.S. Jewish opinion. He's been very accessible to the Jewish community, says Nancy Kaufman, the director of the Jewish Community Relations Council in Boston. He's
been willing to engage and be challenging, always willing to learn. He's
been able to respond to the diversity of the community. He saw us as resources; he saw that we each had something to contribute, Shaer says of Kerry. James Zogby of the Arab American Institute says Kerry's experience with Massachusetts' large Jewish and Lebanese American communities has shown him that Jewish and Arab needs are not mutually exclusive. Zogby cites President Clinton's dedication to bringing peace, and the impression it left on both communities. What made President Clinton work was that he left office and both sides said he was the best American president Jews ever had, the best American president Arabs ever had, Zogby says. But Kerry's opponents say that a man who makes himself all things to all people adds up to nothing. Characterizing Kerry as a flip-flopper is unfair, say Jewish community professionals who work with him. They say it's an unsophisticated way of understanding a man who carefully considers each position. He doesn't usually react or respond in a visceral way, he's very deliberative, says Kaufman of the JCRC. His deliberativeness is taken for aloofness, but it really is him taking time to pause, think and balance pros and cons of giving voice to an issue. Once he has totally evaluated and considered an issue, he has no problems taking a position. Some of his critics make a connection between the allegation that he does not know himself and his failure to research his own Jewish roots until the Boston Globe uncovered his grandfather's Jewish birth a year ago. Kerry's confusion about his heritage mirrors a larger confusion about his essence, Globe columnist Joan Vennochi, an especially vigorous Kerry critic, wrote at the time. Who is he? What does he believe in? Whether the issue is war with Iraq or support for affirmative action, his political core is hard to pin down, perhaps as difficult as his personal roots. A
closer examination of the record shows that such criticism is unfair,
according to a follow-up by Reform Judaism magazine last summer. The article suggested that without the considerable research resources of a newspaper like the Globe, Kerry had no way of uncovering his grandfather's origins although he had tried over the years. He was apparently stunned when he found out a year ago. Now
he routinely mentions the fact when he campaigns among Jews. Lipsman,
the recently elected Iowa delegate, recalls telling Kerry, when she first
met him, that she favored Connecticut Sen. Joseph Lieberman because she
wanted to see a Jewish president elected. He
counts among his backers American Jews prominent in the mainstream Jewish
establishment, including his key Massachusetts fund-raiser, Alan Solomont,
a leading Boston philanthropist who says he was drawn to Kerry because
of his Middle East policies. That means, Kerry has said, that he would emulate Clinton's intensely involved activism. In the first days of a Kerry administration, I will appoint a presidential ambassador to the peace process who will report directly to me and the secretary of state and who will work day-to-day to move the process forward and make an early assessment of how to build on areas of agreement and disagreement, Kerry said in a statement to JTA. An
official in a pro-Israel group described Kerry's record on Israel-related
votes during his nearly 20 years in the Senate as outstanding.
They say Kerry has privately expressed his distaste for Sharon, and point out that Solomont is a leading figure in the Israel Policy Forum, a group that promotes U.S. engagement in the region and has been sharply critical of the Sharon government. Among
the critics' concerns is that Kerry would consider as Middle East emissaries
personalities unpalatable to the Jewish community, including former Secretary
of State James Baker. Beyond foreign policy, Kerry's Jewish supporters note his staunch support for domestic issues supported by the majority of American Jews. He is pro-choice, he wants to extend health care coverage and he is a strong supporter of the separation of church and state.
Funding Helps Seniors Stay at Home MATT
LEBOVIC Like many seniors, 85-year-old Edith Sever wants to remain in her own home. I could not imagine leaving, said Sever, a Holocaust survivor who has lived independently in her Chestnut Hill apartment for many years. But when two recent spine surgeries left her unable to walk, Sever found herself in a difficult situation. I didnt know what I would do, Sever said. I needed help to take care of myself and was afraid. For Sever, help came in the form of regular visits from nurses and physical therapists sent by Jewish Family & Childrens Service of Greater Boston (JF&CS). Twice a week, a physical therapist works with Sever in her home to help her learn to walk again. Sever also receives help from JF&CSs Holocaust services program, Hakalah. If
the program is successful, then there are plans to bring it to the North
Shore, says Jon Firger, chief executive of JFS of the North Shore. NORC, or Naturally Occurring Retirement Community, refers to any neighborhood, housing complex or building that was not designed as a senior residence, but has a significant population of seniors who are aging in place. Nearly 90 percent of Americas 35 million seniors say they want to live independently in the privacy of their own homes, according to AARP. But few of the more than 5,000 NORCs identified throughout the country provide ready access to the services that many seniors need to live safely and in good health at home. This new funding will allow JF&CS and Jewish Family Service of the North Shore (JFS) to provide a range of health and supportive services to residents, said Nancy K. Kaufman, Executive Director of JCRC. Ultimately, NORC programs like Beacon Hill Village are about maintaining seniors dignity and building community, said Willett. With the overwhelming majority of the countrys senior population saying they want to remain in the privacy of their own homes, social service agencies have their work cut out for them, said Firger. The effort was spearheaded in the U.S. House of Representatives by Representative Barney Frank, and in the Senate by Senator Edward Kennedy, Kaufman said. Strong support also came from Senator John Kerry and Representatives Edward Markey and John Tierney, she said. JCRC deserves congratulations for its effort to show how we can care for elderly people in need in a way that is both cost-efficient and compassion-sufficient, said Representative Frank. I was glad to be able to help secure the necessary funding, he said. According to Senator Kennedy, NORC programs provide important support to seniors who wish to remain in their homes. The aging-in-place initiative strengthens an especially valuable resource of every community - its senior citizens, Kennedy said. Its essential to do all we can to guarantee that elderly Americans have a place to live in the community they helped to build. The Jewish Community Relations Council of Greater Boston deserves great credit for its leadership. Through the new funding, JF&CS and JFS will organize supportive service programs for NORC residents ranging from care assistance and case management to recreational programs. This is a terrific approach for seniors in the community because it brings services to where they live, said Dr. Seymour Friedland, Executive Director of JF&CS. All of us desire for our parents to age gracefully. The NORC model makes this happen. Experimental NORC programs in New York City and elsewhere have been shown to maximize existing services and improve the quality of life in these communities. In a time of gaps in the public safety net and unprecedented cuts in public services, NORC programs provide flexible delivery of needs-based services in a cost-efficient manner. As
JF&CS and JFS begin to implement NORC programs, coordination between
seniors, social service organizations and government agencies will grow,
said Alan D. Solomont, board chair of CJP and former owner of many area
nursing homes and Assisted Living facilities. A Boston organization already providing NORC-type programs is Beacon Hill Village (BHV), a virtual retirement community serving seniors in Beacon Hill, Back Bay and Charles River Park. BHV services range from grocery deliveries to coordinating short-term nursing care for members, said Judy Willett, their executive director. The kind of lifestyles seniors want to lead are a lot different than in the past, and we need to think about that as we create these services, said Firger. We have a whole new generation of seniors. Journal Announces Staff Changes STAFF REPORT In a cost-saving move, the Jewish Journal has eliminated the position of associate publisher, held for the past 18 months by Barbara Spaulding of South Hamilton. Spaulding, an 11-year veteran of the Journal, left the paper on January 30 after serving successively as sales represenative, sales manager, and, since July 2002, associate publisher. Editor-Publisher Mark Arnold also announced two other staff changes: Suzanne Provencher of Nahant, who joined the staff as sales rep in September, was appointed advertising sales manager, effective February 1. She will take over Ms. Spauldings sales responsibilities. Lauren Gaudet of West Peabody will become business manager April 1. She will succeed bookkeeper/office manager Lorraine Swenson, who is retiring in April, and will also assume some of the business functions formerly held by Spaulding. Provencher, who has more than 20 years of experience in publishing, advertising and sales, is a native of Salem. A graduate of Emerson College in Boston, she has held advertising sales management positions at several newspapers, magazine, and trade journals. She was a partner and vice president/ advertising director of the former Salem Pioneer, a biweekly in Salem in the late 90s. Before coming to the Journal, she was major accounts manager at Boston Metro, a free newspaper for commuters. Gaudet, who holds a certificate in computer management from Merrimac College, has a background in bookkeeping and accounting. She served for almost three years as operations manager and financial director of the North Suburban Jewish Community Center in Peabody. Arnold paid tribute to Spauldings dedication and hard work, saying: She was a great partner these past 18 months, but economic realities no longer allowed us to continue the position. He said the changes should increase efficiency and spur both sales revenue and financial management. Disagree with Dignity, Says ADL Speaker MARK
ARNOLD The Anti-Defamation League (ADL) presented a series of lectures in Boston last year called Sources of Justice. They were an attempt to relate the social agenda of the group to the core values and ethics of the Jewish religion. On February 11, the North Shore chapter of ADL hosted a discussion here, led by Samuel Chiel, Rabbi Emeritus of Temple Emanuel in Newton and a board member of the Massachusetts ADL. The event, at the home of James and Susan Rudolph in Swampscott, drew 30 people. Rabbi Chiel, who led the Newton Conservative congregation for 27 years until his retirement in 1995, said Jews, like everybody else, need to learn to disagree with dignity. They must be respectful of the views of those who disagree, rather than take the attitude, Im all right and youre all wrong, he argued. He cited the example of Londons chief rabbi, Jonathan Sachs, author of The Dignity of Difference, who was forced by dissenting rabbis to issue a second edition of his book that watered down some of his points. For example, the first edition said that in the course of history, God has spoken to mankind in many languages: through Judaism to Jews, Christianity to Christians, Islam to Muslims. The revised version omits any suggestion that God might speak to other religions the way he does to Jews, Chiel said. As examples of differing with civility, Chiel cited the historic dialogue between Beth Shammai and Beth Hillel. This dialogue is studied by all rabbinical students and it demonstrates, he said, that the result was always either a compromise that both could live with or an affirmation of one point of view, which the other would then support. In the United States, he said, Jews practice tolerance. In many other countries, he said, extremism and intolerance rule. Asked about the Massachusetts Judicial Courts decision that gays should enjoy the same rights as married couples, he said, Its too bad the court didnt provide a way for the public to weigh in on the question. Public discussion and debate make for a healthier democracy, he said. Debra Finkel, ADL North Shore coordinator, said the group may continue the series on the North Shore. National News Will Gibsons Film Poison Christian-Jewish Ties? JOE
BERKOFSKY NEW
YORK Jesus will appear on the Christian holy day of Ash Wednesday
thanks to Mel Gibson. That Gibsons The Passion will premier is certain. The big question is how a reportedly gory film about the last 12 hours in Jesuss life, in Aramaic and Latin with subtitles, will play at the local multiplex. Many Jewish organizational leaders also are waiting to see if a movie they say scapegoats the Jews for the crucifixion will produce legions of Jew-hating moviegoers and poison Christian-Jewish relations for years to come. It makes the Romans look like lambs who are being forced to punish Jesus, and it shows the Jews as bloodthirsty and vengeful and unending in their desire to see him crucified, Abraham Foxman, national director of the Anti-Defamation League, said after emerging from a preview last week. The movie debuts at a sensitive period in Catholic-Jewish relations. It also reflects a larger struggle within the Catholic Church over whether to continue promoting 40-year-old reforms that include renouncing the notion of collective Jewish guilt for Jesus crucifixion, an issue Gibson apparently brings to the silver screen. Tied loosely to the film, there is enormous concern on both sides of the Catholic-Jewish divide about which direction the church will be going in the post-John Paul II era, said Rabbi Eugene Korn, a Seton Hall adjunct professor and longtime interfaith advocate. There is contradictory data out there. Last week, some signs of hope about those ties surfaced in New York, where the World Jewish Congress hosted a two-day gathering that brought together 12 cardinals and six chief rabbis from nations as diverse as Angola and Ukraine with a group of Catholic and Jewish scholars. The meeting was noteworthy not only for the unusual presence of leading papal contenders, but for the presence of top Orthodox Jewish figures as well. WJC Chairman Israel Singer said that the conference helped institutionalize contacts that have warmed ever since the Vaticans 1965 reforms, known as Nostra Aetate, dropped the teaching that charged Jews with collective responsibility for killing Jesus. The movie shows the Jews as a mob spitting, scratching, yelling, pummeling at Jesus, their faces contorted, Elcott said. This movie is an assault on our commitment to interreligious dialogue and respect. After Foxman called the movie painful, he received a letter from Gibson urging a detente, though Foxman said Gibson never addressed his complaints or his request to add a post-script telling audiences not to interpret the movie as an indictment of the Jews. This week, a Gibson aide said the actor-director decided, based on focus-group reactions, to cut a potentially incendiary line from the film in which the Jewish high priest Caiaphas says of Jesus death, His blood be on us and on our children. That line from the New Testament was used in passion plays throughout the centuries, and often triggered anti-Jewish violence. I do not take your concerns lightly, Gibson wrote to Foxman, insisting that his purpose is to love and respect others despite our differences. Foxman called the letter kind, but said it didnt address the serious issues the ADL had raised about the film. Meanwhile, even as the bishops met with rabbis in New York, and the pope met with two top Israeli rabbis last week, another dispute erupted over whether the pope himself endorsed the movie. A Wall Street Journal columnist was the first to report that an Icon producer succeeded in getting a copy of the movie to the pontiff, who viewed it and, according to an unnamed Vatican source, said, It is as it was. Other reports echoed that account, but a senior Vatican aide to the pontiff later dismissed the report, saying the pope does not give judgments on art. Ironically, Gibson is a member of a Catholic fundamentalist sect that rejects Vatican authority and opposes its reforms, though Gibson has insisted he is not anti-Semitic. Gibson
is as mensch as they get, said Icon spokesman Alan Nierob.
Hes a wonderful person whos just trying to make a good
film. Recently,
the Center for Christian-Jewish Relations at Boston College, a liberal
Jesuit institution, issued Facts, Faith and Film-making: Jesus
Passion and Its Portrayal, a guide intended to counter the films
potential impact. At the same time, the U.S. Conference of Catholic Bishops issued The Bible, the Jews and the Death of Jesus, a collection of church papers intended to end prejudices against Jews and Judaism. While the furor over the movie is likely to continue, interfaith activists remain confident that it wont adversely affect progress in Catholic-Jewish relations. Catholic-Jewish ties will continue, Korn said. There are partners on both sides who want it to. America
Decides 2004 MATTHEW
E. BERGER ARLINGTON, Va. Four years ago, he was the toast of the Jewish world, the favorite son who became a symbol of opportunity for American Jews. But when he went out on his own this time around, Sen. Joseph Lieberman (D-Conn.) failed to catch on as a top-tier candidate. Lieberman formally stepped down Feb. 3, after failing to win any of the first nine primaries or caucuses. He came in second in only one of seven contests, on Feb. 3 in Delaware. The judgment of the voters is now clear, he told supporters at his headquarters in Virginia. It
had been clear for a while. Even Liebermans mother, Marcia, had
acknowledged earlier that her sons campaign didnt catch
on. When Lieberman announced his candidacy in January 2003, he had the highest name recognition among the Democratic hopefuls, because of his exposure as the vice presidential nominee on the 2000 ticket with Al Gore. But even as he was leading in the polls then, political analysts did not consider him in the top tier of candidates. There are many explanations for Liebermans fall. Some say it was political. Lieberman is a moderate on social, economic and political issues, someone who supported the Iraq war and was campaigning among a Democratic electorate angered by the Bush administrations handling of Iraq and his domestic policies. In his announcement, Lieberman said he still believed that moderation was the best way to go. I offered a mainstream voice and I still believe that that is the right choice and the winning choice for our party and our country, he said. While that positioning might have served him well against Bush in November, it missed the point of Democratic primaries playing to the partys base. Others say his mistakes were strategic, suggesting that Lieberman had a sense of entitlement because of the election controversies of 2000, and therefore did not lay the groundwork for his candidacy the way his opponents did. Then there is the Jewish question. While no one expected Lieberman to receive the full support of American Jews, some Lieberman loyalists say they did not anticipate the extent to which his candidacy would be rejected by some in their community. Rabbi Irving Yitz Greenberg, president of the Jewish Life Network Foundation, and his wife Blu, were circulating an op-ed to Jewish newspapers this week, arguing that Jews were acting as anti-Semites would, casting Lieberman aside because of his Jewishness. The community blinked, Yitz Greenberg said, suggesting that his policies were a good fit for Jews. A rise of anti-Semitism and anti-Zionist sentiment around the world brought old fears to the surface for many Jews, he argued, and Jews looked for a safer choice for president. The
community made a huge mistake, he said. A victory for a Jew
in America would have been a tremendous refutation of anti-Semitism.
But as his own candidate and at a time of increased tension in the Middle East and an uptick in international anti-Semitism hesitancy grew. Marvin Lender, a member of Liebermans campaign board who raised funds for him in the Jewish community, suggested that Lieberman aides had anticipated raising more money from the Jewish community. He sees fear as one element, but says the Jewish communitys political sophistication also hurt Liebermans chances. Many leaders of the Jewish community, the politically invested people, had already made commitments, he said. Indeed, many seasoned political donors in the Jewish community had ties to other candidates such as Sen. John Kerry (D-Mass.) or Rep. Richard Gephardt (D-Mo.), or several of the candidates at once. It was much easier to support Lieberman in 2000, when he was not running against other Democrats. Not all Jewish analysts believe Lieberman was hurt by his community. He still galvanized many Jews who may not have given in past political races to donate, they say, but did not get the support from others because of his moderate politics. Jews were happy for Lieberman, happy he could run for president, but sadly, just didnt embrace his politics, said Steve Rabinowitz, aDemocratic media strategist with ties to the Jewish community. Stuart
Rothenberg, an independent political analyst, suggested that if Lieberman
were a Baptist, he would have done worse. Lieberman was always out
of sync with his party, Rothenberg said. He was not as liberal
on foreign policy and economic issues. Many say the candidate did not work hard enough to build on the name recognition and exposure he received as Gores running mate in 2000, reaching out to party contributors in key primary states. Unfortunately, he spent two years not doing anything, resting on that flash reputation, Rabinowitz said. He didnt develop it, he didnt go out and meet big givers and local leaders and mayors. When Lieberman campaigned last year, voters remembered the war in Iraq, which Lieberman supported, and the Sept. 11, 2001 terrorist attacks a lot more clearly than they did the 2000 election scandals. Voters wanted somebody who could really stick it to Bush and is confrontational and aggressive, Rothenberg said. That wasnt Lieberman.
International News Palestinians Set to Fight Gaza Withdrawal GIL
SEDAN JERUSALEM
Ten years ago, if the Palestinians had been told that Ariel Sharon,
father of the Israeli settlement movement, would be offering a near-complete
withdrawal from the Gaza Strip, most probably would have rejoiced at the
prospect. But when the Israeli prime minister dropped that political bombshell last week by signaling that he intended to uproot almost every Israeli settlement in the Gaza Strip something the Arabs have demanded for years Palestinians greeted the announcement with a mixture of caution and skepticism. Palestinian Authority Prime Minister Ahmed Qurei welcomed the idea, saying In our view, every evacuation of a settlement is welcome. But his boss, P.A. President Yasser Arafat, condemned the move. A unilateral withdrawal in Gaza contradicts the road map, Arafat adviser Nabil Abu Rudeineh said, referring to an internationally backed peace plan. It will not bring forward a solution, but will rather complicate the situation. If the offer by an Israeli prime minister to cede Gaza unilaterally with no corresponding Palestinian concessions does not please them, then what exactly do the Palestinians want? The conflicting reactions are not surprising, Palestinian intellectual Hanan Ashrawi, a former P.A. minister and peace negotiator, told JTA. They are both right. Qurei welcomes the principle of a cost-free Israeli withdrawal, while Arafat is wary of a trap, Ashrawi said. We
have seen all sorts of trial balloons before, she said. Whenever
Sharon is in trouble he launches something, but there is nothing particular
on the ground. He sold the same goods several times in the past. I will
believe it when I see it. Many Palestinians suspect that even if
Sharon is serious about leaving Gaza, he will try to balance that concession
by strengthening Israels hold on the West Bank. Arafat
often uses rejection as a negotiating tactic, later returning to the spurned
offer as the starting point for further demands. But
there is more to the Palestinian reaction than simple distrust of Sharon.
The reaction reflects the political vacuum in the Palestinian-populated
territories. In the absence of a real, effective landlord, Palestinians
fear that Israels departure could worsen the mess in Gaza. Some Palestinians fear that if Israel quits Gaza, Hamas will take over and challenge the hegemony of Arafat and his Fatah movement in the Palestinian territories. Additionally,
unilateral Israeli steps render Arafat and his Palestinian Authority virtually
irrelevant, further weakening the P.A.s hand. After the interview with the Haaretz newspaper in which Sharon publicized his Gaza initiative, Qurei contacted key figures in the Gaza Strip to ask for a report on the possible impact of an Israeli withdrawal. At the same time, Qurei renewed contacts with Israelis trying to facilitate a long-delayed meeting with Sharon. Qurei has cancelled meetings with Sharon on numerous occasions, demanding that Sharon first agree to freeze construction of Israels West Bank security barrier, among other concessions. Mahdi Abdul Hadi, who heads the Palestinian Academic Society for the Study of International Affairs, said Sharons Gaza initiative is part of decades-long efforts to partition Palestine. This is yet a new Israeli chapter trying to lock the Palestinians into small pieces of land, he said. Hisham Awartani, an economist and formerly a senior lecturer at Najah University in Nablus, said that not only does he distrust Sharon, but he doesnt believe the separation idea can work. I dont think a total separation is feasible, he said, explaining that Israel and the Palestinian Authority are simply too interdependent to be separated. So what will happen to the Palestinians if Israel withdraws from Gaza?
Critics of the prime minister, noting that the judicial process can take months or years, expressed concern that the scandal could taint Israels position in the international community and hamper its efforts to resolve the conflict with the Palestinians. I urge the prime minister to come out and give his version, Labor leader Shimon Peres told Channel One television. This is not a legal matter; it is a matter of statesmanship. If Sharon and Olmert are indicted, early elections probably would be called and a succession frenzy likely would ensue in the Likud. Leading candidates to replace Sharon would be Finance Minister Benjamin Netanyahu, Foreign Minister Silvan Shalom and Defense Minister Shaul Mofaz. Israel Girds for The Hague; May Make Significant Changes to Fence Route LESLIEW
SUSSER JERUSALEM
Israel claims that the International Court of Justice has no jurisdiction
to rule on the West Bank security barrier but at the same time
the government is preparing detailed legal, security and diplomatic arguments
and an intensive public-relations campaign. Two major decisions will be made that could have a bearing on the case. First, is it better to dispatch an Israeli legal team to appear at the ICJ or to rely on a written affidavit, and second, should the fences route be altered for humanitarian reasons? Most top Israeli officials are against sending a legal team on the grounds that it would imply the very recognition of the ICJ proceedings that Israel is at such pains to deny. As for the route of the fence, there could be changes before the issue reaches The Hague. In an address Sunday to the 40th Munich Conference on Security Policy, Israels new national security adviser, Giora Eiland who has been given a free hand by Prime Minister Ariel Sharon to draft a new route for the fence declared that Israel had not fully taken into account the way the barrier could disrupt Palestinian lives. Israel
will do what it can possibly even changing the fences route
to avoid causing unnecessary suffering, Eiland said. The United Nations followed that up with a 600-page affidavit that, according to Israels U.N. ambassador, Dan Gillerman, ignores the basic reason for building the fence: Palestinian terrorism. Israel responded by questioning the competence of the court, the wisdom of a court action and the neutrality of one of the 15 judges, an Egyptian who previously has expressed anti-Israel views. The legal-diplomatic brief, drafted by British-based international law expert Daniel Bethlehem, rejects the courts authority as well as the propriety of the process. In a 131-page affidavit, Bethlehem maintains that the court has no right to rule on what is basically a political dispute, and that doing so will undermine political efforts to resolve the Israeli-Palestinian conflict. A court ruling most likely will drive the parties to adopt more radical positions and thus will make political negotiations less likely, the argument goes. It will undermine diplomatic initiatives like the internationally approved road map peace plan and cause more suffering and hardship, Israel will argue. In other words, Israel says, the court is an inappropriate forum for dealing with a political conflict. This argument already has struck a receptive chord. Several dozen countries, including the United States, Russia, Canada, Australia, South Africa, all 15 European Union members and the 10 waiting to join, have submitted affidavits rejecting the courts jurisdiction on the grounds that a hearing would do more harm than good. To back up the legal-diplomatic argument, Israel also is preparing a detailed security brief. A team under the defense ministers adjutant, Brig. Gen. Mike Herzog, is putting the finishing touches on a three-part document that describes the terrorist onslaught that led Israel to build the fence, explains the thinking behind the route, and outlines its effectiveness at preventing terrorism. Noting the number and nature of Palestinian suicide bombings, the document invokes Israels inherent right to self-defense according to Article 51 of the U.N. charter. It also defines the Palestinian intifada as a hostile confrontation that entitles Israel to take forceful measures, such as building a fence in disputed or occupied territory. Israelis right to life, the document argues, takes precedence over Palestinians right to freedom of movement. In his Munich address, Eiland explained that Israel decided to build the fence in the spring of 2002, after 135 Israelis were killed in 17 suicide attacks in a single month. He underlined how effective it already has proven: In the sector where the fence is complete, only three Israelis were killed last year, compared to 58 the year before. Even if Israel decides not to dispatch legal experts to appear in court, it will send a public-relations team to The Hague. There also will be an exhibit recalling the June 2001 bombing of Tel Avivs Dolphinarium disco in which 21 young Israelis were killed as well as the gutted hulk of a bombed Jerusalem bus. The main thrust of the Palestinian case is that the fence is not being built exclusively on Israels own territory, and that it causes humanitarian problems for hundreds of thousands of Palestinians. On the territorial issue, Israel has developed a two-pronged legal argument. First, Israel argues, the U.N.s use of the term occupied Palestinian territory is questionable because the West Bank never legally belonged to the Palestinians. Rather, Israel argues, the land should be considered disputed territory in which Israel, one of the disputing parties, has rights. Moreover, Israeli officials say, even if the term occupied territory is granted, an occupier facing armed hostilities has the right to take defensive measures. On the humanitarian issue, Israel has another two-pronged claim. The argument in principle is that saving human life takes precedence over non-lethal hardship. But Israel now adds that it intends to do all it can to relieve Palestinian suffering, even if that means building the fence closer to the pre-1967 boundary between Israel and the West Bank, known as the Green Line. Indeed, Eiland is working on a new route that will take the fence closer to the Green Line and not snake around some Palestinian villages, cutting them off from both Israel and the West Bank. The
problem of the ringed villages is most acute in Jerusalem.
Human rights activists contend that it is not only inhumane but self-defeating.
The misery it causes will spawn even more suicide bombers, they say. Leslie Susser is the diplomatic correspondent for the Jerusalem Report. Features People in the News
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Synagogue Attacked Marsha
Inc. of Marblehead
MARBLEHEAD For more than two decades, Marbleheads Marsha Kadish has been outfitting toddlers and children in delightful denim fashions. Her bold, colorful clothes, decorated with rhinestones, velvet and embroidered appliques, are showcased at high-end boutiques and elegant department stores across the country. However after 25 years in the business, the 57-year-old artist and entrepreneur is ready to turn the day-to-day operations of the company over to her 32-year-old son, Scott. She will remain involved as a consultant. Its been a wonderful experience, admits the youthful-looking Marsha, who holds a Fine Arts degree, as well as a degree in Art Education. My late husband David (who was the business manager) and I built the business side by side. We had a lot of fun. We travelled all over the world to buy fabrics, and showed the line in France and Germany. We personally visited hundreds of stores across the United States that carry the collection, and developed close relationships with store owners. But its time to move on. Unfortunate circumstances drew Scott into the family business. When David died suddenly in April of 2003, Marsha realized that she needed help running the operation. At the time, Scott was employed as Youth Services Director at the Jewish Community Center in Deal, NJ. I was doing well on a career track with the JCC, but my mother asked me to come back and help out, says the soft-spoken Scott, who now lives in Marblehead with his wife Stacey and daughters Cassie, 2, and Daphnie, 2 months. I didnt really know what to expect, however once I got acclimated, I discovered that many of my skills were transferrable to a new career. Scott,
who holds a dual Masters degree from Brandeis in Jewish Communal Service
and Management, didnt require much mentoring. Scott has been
fabulous, says Marsha. Over the past year, he has learned
how to run the business end of Marsha Inc. without having David here to
teach him. Marsha Inc. began as a hobby for the creative Marsha, who bought plain denim Oshkosh overalls and decorated them with satin hearts, rainbows and Superman appliques for her own children, Scott and Jodi, now 29. Friends urged her to sell the whimsical, washable articles to local stores, which she did. Before long, a sales professional from New York approached her about representing the line. Today there are six showrooms across the country that handle the high-end collection of childrens overalls, jackets, dresses and tops in sizes from six months to eight years. The line has been featured in over 450 stores worldwide, including Neiman Marcus and Saks. Locally, the clothes are available at Peanut Butter n Jelly Kids in Danvers and Cape Ann Growing Pains in Gloucester. Although Marsha and her team of designers work with a variety of materials, they are primarily known for denim. Marsha estimates that they sell approximately 6,000 pairs of overalls annually. The sturdy, stone-washed pieces are appliqued with chenille, satin, velvet, fur and other fine fabrics, and embellished with embroidery, ribbons and rhinestones. Each design is original, but they all have an unmistakable Marsha look and feel. Marsha, who has twice been nominated for Designer of the Year in Childrens Wear at the Dallas Fashion Awards, says decoration ideas just pop into her mind. Over the years some of the most popular themes have been sports, flowers, fire trucks, telephones and animals. She notes that the company has made specialty items for celebrities including overalls and jackets for Yoko Ono and John Lennons son Sean, outfits for all of Diana Rosss children, and clothes for the son of a Dallas Mavericks basketball star using his team number 25. Although several years ago she created decorated sweat suits for women and made bat mitzvah and party dresses for teens, she prefers to focus on childrens wear. The clothes are manufactured and shipped out of a 5,000 square foot facility in Marblehead. North Shore parents can take advantage of an outlet store attached to the factory where first quality samples and overcuts can be purchased for at least 40 percent off. Several times per year, the outlet has a sale where shoppers can realize additional savings. Since labor overseas is so much cheaper, it is rare to find clothing companies that do all their manufacturing in the United States. Marsha Inc. is a notable exception. Wed like to keep manufacturing in the USA because of the quality and control. When stores need to re-order, we can turn the orders around in a week. We cant do that from overseas, explains Marsha. The firm employs a staff of 20-30 full and part-time workers, some of whom have been with the company for 20 years. Artisans hand sew the decorations onto the articles of clothing either at the factory, or at home at their own speed. Marsha notes that many stay-at-home mothers with children enjoy working as piecemeal home sewers. Although Marsha emphasizes that she is not retiring, she will probably spend only one or two days per week at the store. She is confident that while she is up in New Hampshire skiing and pursuing other artistic pursuits, Scott will successfully manage the business. I like the challenge of running a small business, says Scott, who doesnt plan to make any immediate dramatic changes at Marsha Inc. Marsha and my father worked hard to bring the business to this stage. I want to keep the status quo. Weve become a fixture in the area, and we hope to be in the community for a long time. The Marsha Inc. factory outlet is located on 32 Tioga Way in Marblehead. For more information, phone 781-631-8674 or visit www.marshainc.com. My Visit to Israel: A Trip Beyond the Newsprint JAMIE
KIFFEL It's a little like a cross between the Grand Canyon and walking on the surface of Mars. Desolate, vast, and striated with colored sand. This was my first glimpse of the world outside of Tel Aviv airport. Until now, I'd had a confused, green and tan image of the place, spotted with explosions and dust. Newsprint had colored my vision of Israel: a place where people killed each other and buses exploded, according to my New York Times. I read faithfully wherever I saw "Israel" in the headlines. But what I rarely found were snapshots of her personal self the details that make the place touchable, understandable. People bring back many things from Israel. Here, I've brought back the details of what I found there. It isn't politically heavy, but simply a snapshot for those who might like to see something beyond the newsprint. My trip started with my Israeli boyfriend, Daniel, and I driving to Jerusalem. I was nervous about going to the city where I'd heard about so many bombings. However, the closer we got, the safer I felt. First, there are Israeli soldiers everywhere. They have large, automatic machine guns, berets in some cases, and dark glasses. We found a great parking spot near a passing camel, and headed for the gate to the entrance to the Old City. Daniel and I separated at the gate where I headed for the "women only" armed guard and metal detector while he headed for the "men only." After a scan, we were in. "So you want to see the wall? There it is," Daniel said. "Is
that the piece we can get close to?" I asked, seeing a rather small
section of wall with some brush growing in it. As this is also segregated, we agreed to meet again in a few minutes as I headed right and he headed left. It didn't really look like much as I approached it, though the ground before it is made of very well-waxed marble, and you need to be careful of your footing. There are also chairs set out so that one can sit and pray. I walked right up. As I got within three feet of the wall, suddenly, I felt the most overwhelming sense of magnetism and fear. The whole wall seemed alive, like it was pulsing energy, and the feeling was genuinely scary. My heart started to race, and I just stood there for a while, feeling this magnetic-feeling force pulling at me. I don't know if it was the wall itself, or the energy of the countless prayers that have been said there, but it was unlike anything I anticipated. Daniel and I reconvened to explore the city. Jerusalem is gigantic like Paris and built into a mountain. It's full of hills like San Francisco, and dry and sparse like Arizona. It's old like Rome, but without anything sparkling or bright to break it up (for the most part). Even when you see a nice area, it's covered in dust and sand and feels old. Even David's Tower, which we toured, has treacherous, crumbling stairs, with no "caution" signs written anywhere. It's just what it is. And, like most places we'd visit, nearly devoid of tourists. We found the Arab market, a series of narrow passageways where salesmen try to entice passers-by to purchase everything from wooden camels to silver necklaces to rugs to dresses. Everyone spoke English, and most everyone was friendly. We bargained a bit for two belly dancing scarves (as in, "No thanks."We walked away and they cut the prices in half). On the way out of the city, we heard the muezzins singing their Arabic prayers. We headed for a church that claims to be the place where Mary lived and died after Jesus death. It, too, was empty. Tel Aviv is about an hour and a half from Be'er Sheva. We had to pick up our tickets from Royal Jordanian Airlines, which Daniel did while I waited in the car (illegally parked on the sidewalk, which is a popular thing to do in Tel Aviv). A world-class city, complete with green trees and grass and flowers, the buildings are sand-colored, and worn ones are right beside renovated Arabian-style villas which have ceilings molded into a tent-like shape, little metal balconies, and painted tiles in the floors. There are boutiques and skyscrapers and young people in trendy clothing. Everywhere you go, they examine your bags. We got checked before entering the mall, and before going into the garage (they even checked the trunk). It's perfunctory, but I guess they're more thorough if they suspect anything. We later went in search of hummos and falafel. With some recommendations from passers-by, we ended up at a tiny place where we sat at a little table and listened to the workers at the counter loudly talking about how another restaurant is stealing this place's name and how the owner should just pretend it's a second branch instead of getting into a fight, since it's good for business anyway (Daniel translated all this). The pitas, hummos, falafels and Arab salad came to the table. It's important to note that the pitas are nothing like ours. They're big and soft and warm and light. We stuffed these with hummos, which was like a cloud of icing without sugar; a spread of tofu without the soy; a wave of soft sand without the grit. It was amazing. This prepared us for the next day: Masada. Hawks wheeled in stern circles overhead, the road wound like a narrow snake through wicked turns, past sparse, dull green brush, while we watched the temperature climb on the digital dashboard of our little white Renault "Clio" with Daniels friend Uzi at the wheel. We zoomed past steep dunes and striated sand, all barren except for the hidden lizards and the occasional ibex, a type of gazelle with knobby horns like forged iron. Every other dune starts to look like a settlement or a sphinx or Lot's wife, though nothing is more than an ancient cave that our ancestors once lived in. We drove until finally we saw an oasis of green: Kibbutz Ein Gedi. The kibbutz grows dates, has a gift shop featuring bright sarongs, hamsa key chains, the occasional day-glo-haired gnome, and a case of ice cream. As soon as we got on the path, we were faced with several unafraid ibex fawns. And before we'd snapped more than a few pictures, something suddenly ran past us on the left: a brown thing like a cat with no ears and no tail. "Desert
bunnies," Uzi said as we spied three more wryly lounging under a
date palm. They're actually not bunnies, and not cats, but they look like
live teddy bears with the hind legs of rabbits. They have fat tushies
and little heads, and are shaped roughly like gumdrops. They are very
tame, and we found that they love to pose for photos. From there, we headed for the sizzling Dead Sea. The
Dead Sea is over 25 percent salt including bromine and gypsum and
other components. "Don't get any in your mouth," Daniel warned
me. How salty can it be? I wondered. I understood as my tongue touched
my finger. It burned like acid! Soon my body was searing, my tongue sizzling.
So, toes burning on rocks that felt like coals, I gradually floated out.
And then, on a barren ocean, I sat up in the water like the earth had
just dropped away and I'd stayed on a gust of wind. Masada, though located in land with more desert rats than houses per capita, features recently-added snack bars, a gorgeous, upscale gift shop of handmade Israeli crafts, and a restaurant. So this is Masada: the mountain where Jewish rebels maintained their stronghold when the Romans had conquered everything else. We had our choice of walking (three hours up a snaking hill, past ruins of Roman encampments) or taking a cable car. We chose the cable car. At the top, we explored the ruins of bath houses, palaces, and the rooms where the Jews decided what to do when the Romans finally did arrive. It was impossibly hot. I tried to imagine what the spirits of the Jews who died there were like if these places were haunted with emotions of any kind. If anything, I sensed peace and satisfaction. The following day began with a visit to the Bedouin flea market. Every Thursday morning, Bedouins in black garb or jeans, depending on their tribe gather to sell everything from plastic dolls and cheap cookware to thong underwear, cushions to sit on in a tent, or even imported Afghani necklaces. The majority of the flea market is actually run by Israelis, but we found one tiny Bedouin section where the women, squatting in black clothes with only a sliver of their faces showing, were selling day-glo bright weavings with tassels and gold beads. Tassels in hand, Uzi and Daniel and I piled into the Clio, the yellow "stay back" sticker firmly affixed to the bumper, and headed for Haifa with Daniel at the wheel. Uzi insisted on riding in the back, which turned out to be his crow's nest from which he could shout, "LO LO LO!" (NO NO NO!) when Daniel did anything that struck Uzi as potentially too fast, going the wrong way, near the police, et cetera. It turns out that even when a helicopter flies overhead, one has to slow down because some are traffic copters that signal to police cars on the ground. The ride was almost two hours through old Druze villages, stopping for baklava and assorted other honeyed baked goods. We arrived in Haifa, finally, a stunning place that resembles Sausalito, California. We explored the Baha'i gardens, which are enormous, manicured gardens dedicated to the Baha'i faith. One of the most interesting parts of our ride back from Haifa was the new Route 6, which cuts through Israel. It's a high-speed expressway, and almost no one is on it. That could be, as we discovered, because it runs right past the green line that is, the divider between Israel and Palestine. It appears no different than the hundreds of Arab villages in Israel. But it's behind the wall. It contains a few brightly painted houses with a few larger villas atop large rock formations, and many unfinished houses in progress. Today, back behind the wall of newsprint, I see something between the type. I think of the desert bunnies: born in a certain place and unquestioningly making a life of it, never knowing anything beyond the sand that surrounds them. Isnt that what we do, after all? Jamie Kiffel, an occasional contributer to The Journal, is features editor of Womens World magazine in New York. Draw
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