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March 6 - March 19, 1998

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Converts: To be Rejected or Embraced?

In our February 20 issue we ran an op-ed piece by Brandeis Professor Jonathan Sarna. He made comparisons between Jews "by choice" and "born Jews." Jews who have chosen their faith are more spiritual, attend synagogue more often and are more observant at home than born Jews, he states. However, "they are diffident about Klal Yisrael." More troubling to Sarna is that 50 percent of converts would not be bothered a great deal if their children converted to Christianity. Converts' ties to the fold don't "easily transfer across the generations." He fears that converts will be one-generation Jews.

A different view is presented by Brandeis University's Gary Tobin in this issue. Those who are so fearful that their children will be potential Gentiles are creating a self-fulfilling prophesy, he says. The walls of Judaism must be permeable for Judaism to prosper. He advocates active promotion of conversion in order to create a more exhilarating, interesting and accessible faith community.

While Sarna presents a logical argument, it lacks heart and understanding. We embrace the welcoming, equitable attitude expressed by Tobin.

It is the worst kind of feeling to be rejected by one's religious community, whether it is one that a person was born into or has adopted by choice. Too many people have felt frozen out of their local community of Jews because they have intermarried or for other unfair justifications, such as being widowed, poor, single or childless.

The conversion crisis, which is driving a wedge between the Orthodox and the Conservative/Reform, is fueled by a faction of extremists in one stream of Judaism refusing to allow the others to even think of obtaining equal status. This has gone on too long, and the determination of the Conservative and Reform leaders to say, "Enough!" will ultimately make for a stronger Jewish community - not one that will merely survive, but one which will be stable, influential, and bountiful.

Despite the Orthodox Chief Rabbinate's rejection of the Ne'eman Commission's plan to establish an institute for potential converts, progress is being made. Many moderate Orthodox rabbis and leaders are now stating their willingness to work with Conservative and Reform rabbis for the sake of Jewish unity, for Klal Yisrael. The formation of the Ne'eman Commission itself is a significant first step by the Israeli government in recognizing the legitimacy of the more liberal streams of Judaism. As Israel approaches its 50th anniversary, we can celebrate the country's vast achievements politically, and now, with some light at the end of the tunnel, we can sense the beginnings of religious equality on the horizon as well.


arts & entertainment

'Old Wicked Songs' Come Alive in Newton

JUDITH KLEIN
Jewish Journal Staff

Two-character plays are a challenge - both for the actors and for the audience. There are lots of words to articulate and to digest. And there is not a lot of action to distract. After all, no one can die, or the play will become a monologue instead of a dialogue. Neither character can leave the set for long, or the audience is left watching the remaining character talking to him/herself or performing some exciting feat such as opening a letter. What action there is generally takes place on one set. I am reminded of plays like Night Mother, Frankie and Johnnie, and Love Letters.

With these limitations in mind, and having just returned from watching what felt like a cast of thousands perform The Scarlet Pimpernel on multiple sets in New York, I ventured to Newton to see Old Wicked Songs presented by the Jewish Theatre of New England at the Leventhal-Sidman Jewish Community Center.

The old wicked songs of the title refer to the works of Robert Schumann and are interwoven throughout the play. The two characters are Mashkan, portrayed by Mitchell Greenberg, an old Austrian professor of voice, and Stephen Hoffman, played by Barry Abramowitz, a young American piano prodigy who has lost his ability to perform. Hoffman comes to Vienna planning to study with a pianist who will teach him to be an accompanist. Instead, he finds himself with a vocal coach who insists he must sing in order to understand how best to accompany. Hoffman is a reluctant student, full of anger, angst and attitude. Mashkan is a nearly broken man, often bent on self-destruction. Through their evolving relationship, both reveal their pasts, conquer some harmful ghosts in the process, and open up to new possibilities in their lives.

The dialogue is spiced with clever repartee, as each tries to get the better of the other. There are many sight gags, when the professor peeks over his spectacles, or needs to be walked around to wear off his alcohol/drug overdose, or when Hoffman mugs with his hat. The humor gently spares the audience from only the tragic elements of these two men's lives.

Mitchell Greenberg reprises the role he played in the show's New York run. A native of Brooklyn, his Broadway and Off-Broadway credits include Laughter on the 23rd Floor, Threepenny Opera, Can-Can, The Chopin Playoffs, and Scrambled Feet. He also has a long list of regional, television and movie credits. His performance in Old Wicked Songs is both comic and full of pathos, sympathetic and exasperating. Just as Mashkan admonishes Hoffman to feel the joy and the sorrow in a song, Greenberg conveys both sides of his character convincingly.

Abramowitz is equally engaging as Hoffman, though at times he inhabits his character less than fully. Hoffman begins the play so uncomfortable with himself and his development is mirrored by his more relaxed clothing and mien. As Abramowitz plays the part in the coming weeks, he will undoubtedly reach a firmer comfort level as well. Abramowitz holds his MFA from Brandeis, and has many credits in Boston area shows such as The Taming of the Shrew at the Worcester Forum, and Pump Boys and Dinettes at the Charles Playhouse.

New York credits include shows at LaMama, the Gene Grankel Theatre, the Soho Rep, and the Ensemble Studio Theatre.

The set is an impressive recreation of the professor's room at the university, complete with the old, beautiful cornices and fading wallpaper of a formerly grand building. A Victorian couch shares the forefront with a baby grand piano. Books are stacked everywhere, though one wonders why there are books instead of sheets of music. An old victrola seems somewhat out-of-date for 1986. Still the overall effect is of a lavish past which has not embraced the present or future. While the actors at times played the piano themselves, most of the accompaniment was pre-recorded and activated by a switch on the piano. Although they were invisible to the audience, the keys actually move, and the piano operates like a high-tech player piano.

Technically, the show was impressive, both for the set, the sound, and the lighting. Different times of day were easily understood by the changes in lighting coming through the large windows of the room.

The theater is recently renovated with the stage expanded to become much wider. The seating is what seemed like function chairs on risers, and while the sight lines are fine, the comfort of the seats leaves something to be desired.

Old Wicked Songs was written by Jon Marans and was a finalist for the 1996 Pulitzer Prize in drama. While it is a wordy play which demands close attention from the audience (we've all been lulled by sound bytes and movies of titanic proportions), the story of self-revelation and unshackling from the chains of the past is both amusing and intriguing. As a Schumann song expresses, it is about "the dreams, wicked and grim: Let's bury them."

The play runs through March 22. For more information, call the box office at 617-965-5226. Group rates are available by calling the Group Sales Hotline at 617-558-6486.


Mandy Patinkin Returns to His Roots with 'Mamaloshen"' (Mother Tongue)

Mandy Patinkin, whose musical, film and television career has taken him from sold-out Broadway shows to an Emmy Award-winning role in TV's Chicago Hope, just released Mamaloshen (Mother Tongue), his third solo album on Nonesuch Records. A celebrated singer of popular standards, Patinkin presents this 16-song collection, performed with full orchestra, guest vocalist Judy Blazer, and violinist Nadja Salerno-Sonnenberg.

Born into a Jewish immigrant family on the south side of Chicago, Patinkin grew up in the 1960s hearing popular music and also Yiddish standards, some sung by his father. But it was another father figure - the legendary producer Joseph Papp, who gave him his first break at New York's Public Theater - who urged Mandy to take the musical journey back to his Yiddish roots. "This is your job," Papp said in 1990 to the singer-actor who would soon be called "the greatest entertainer on Broadway by Clive Barnes of The New York Post.

Mamaloshen, which follows Patinkin's best-selling Nonesuch recording Oscar and Steve, has been all these years in the making. The songs range from well-known Yiddish standards like Raisins and Almonds and Oyfn Pripetshik, to Rabbi Elimeylekh and Der Alte Tzigayner, to new arrangements of Irving Berlin's God Bless America and Paul Simon's American Tune.

"Yiddish is not a religious language; it is a street language," says Patinkin. "Like everybody who has ever left home, I wanted to preserve the street, the neighborhood, that corner of my heritage. It's not my intention to literally trace the history of Jewish or Yiddish music, or its journey to America, but I have always been interested in what Jewish musicians and composers have done to assimilate. I think all these writers - Irving Berlin, Leonard Bernstein, Stephen Sondheim, Paul Simon - did write Jewish music."

The new release is available on CD ($16.99) and on cassette ($10.99) at In One Ear, 282 Derby St., Salem, MA 01970, or by mail. For mail orders add $4 for postage and handling. The Jewish Journal/North of Boston will receive $3 from each sale.


feature stories

Young Mother's UJA Mission to Cuba

BETTE WINEBLATT KEVA
Jewish Journal Staff

As a mother of three young children, Stephanie Simon sadly had to give up going on one mission after another offered by United Jewish Appeal's Young Leadership Cabinet, of which she is a member. UJA has sponsored trips to Poland, Israel and Czechoslovakia, which she could not attend because they spanned 10 to 14 days - far too long to be away from her children.

When a four-day trip to Cuba arose, she jumped at the chance. Her husband, Jay Epstein, and other relatives would care for the children while she visited Havana and met some of the the 1,800 Cuban Jews living on the island.

During an interview in her Marblehead home last week, Simon recalled an "amazing trip which changed my life." It wasn't until her husband picked her up at Logan Airport and she was halfway home that she burst into tears from all that she had seen, and from all the emotion that had built up in her.

"I thought we would see a lot of old Sephardic Jews who were sick, too poor to leave the country. I thought most would have loved to have come to the United States. Since my background is Ashkenazi, I thought I'd feel they were my people only in a distant sense. All three notions were blown out of the water!"

Simon described a "beautiful" city of Havana, but one which has been left virtually untouched since the 1959 Cuban Revolution. Like a time warp, the UJA group walked around the city seeing cars built in the 40s and 50s. However, there were very few cars there, virtually no transportation, and no new construction in 40 years.

Simon met people who walked an hour and a half to get their children to the Sunday morning Hebrew school in Havana.

The 39-member Young Leadership group "stayed in luxury hotels and ate in fabulous restaurants. Many of us complained to the UJA travel coordinator. We felt it wasn't appropriate. She told us there was no alternative." Either the accommodations in other hotels and restaurants were even fancier, or they were mom and pop shops with only two or three tables, serving food that the organizers could not guaranty would be sanitary.

Simon imagined from the ornate arches and mosaics that Havana once was a jewel. Now, so much is shabby, crumbling, and overcrowded. "Anyone who owned housing prior to and during the Revolution, was allowed to retain ownership. As a result there typically are three generations living in one apartment," said Simon. Havana has a population of 47,000 people per square mile.

The American Joint Distribution Committee's presence is strongly felt in Cuba. Children would go hungry, if not for the Joint, she said.

"The Joint bought the good will of the government by setting up a network of US doctors who come on rotations to Cuba every five or six weeks. They treat the general public, not just Jews." Often the doctors bring all their own equipment and medicines because it either doesn't exist in Cuba or is outdated." Simon, along with every person in her group, brought an extra suitcase filled with medicines and toiletries which they left in the basement of the Havana Jewish Community Center &emdash; enough for three months.

After speaking with the Youth Councilors of the Jewish community, Simon learned that the food situation "is almost desperate." There is a rationing system whereby people use coupons for food. There is a kosher butcher in Havana. People can purchase two pounds of meat a month, five pounds of rice, a few pounds of soybeans, a slice of bread a day, an egg every other day, a few pounds of beans a week. Even with the coupons, food is not always available.

Simon observed that though the Cubans did not appear thin, their diet is heavily based in starch rather than protein. "The people aren't emaciated, but they are horribly malnourished."

Though it is difficult for North Americans to grasp, the Cuban people are happy, said Simon. One Jewish woman told her "What you see here is poverty, not misery."

The Jews of Cuba traveled there from Poland, Russia, Germany and other European countries. A small Sephardic population came early in the century. Their children married within the faith until 1959. After the Revolution, religion was "discouraged greatly" and Jews began marrying out.

Today, however, Simon sees a Jewish renaissance emerging. People are embracing religion. As television viewers saw this month when Pope John Paul visited Cuba, there is a sea change occurring among the public, and religion figures prominently in it.

While Simon envisioned seeing "police on every corner" and bus drivers informing on what her group said, she saw instead a "loosening up" of authority. "Things are getting better. Fidel Castro is 72. The political and economic structure isn't going to last much longer." People the UJA group spoke with didn't speak ill of Castro. They felt he was doing the best he could, yet the government "is just not working."

Simon described the "renaissance." There are three houses of worship for Jews: a Sephardic one-room shul; a huge Conservative temple seating 1,000; and a small Orthodox congregation.

Simon said there is no Reform temple, and there are no rabbis on the island. To perform the 130 conversions to Judaism in the past one and a half years, rabbis were flown in from Argentina. These rabbis also officiated over other Jewish life events, such as the 80 brit milah since 1992. There are 60 students attending the Hebrew school in Havana.

"I saw where our Federation dollars go. People here complain about the JCC or this or that. In Cuba, those dollars are buying milk for children. The funds are purchasing a breakfast and a lunch. This is 60 miles from the US! These are kids who don't have enough food to eat," exclaimed Simon. The Joint, providing breakfasts and lunches for the children when they come to Sunday Hebrew school, "is a miracle. The Joint is a lifeline."

She spoke about watching a performance that the Hebrew school children dramatized for the UJA group. She felt "joy" yet it scared her. They sang the same Hebrew songs her children sing: Dovid Melach Yisroel and Hinei Ma'atov. It occurred to her that these could be her children "but for the grace of G-d."

When people offered them a stick of gum or candy, the children took it politely. When a UJA group member gathered up rolls that weren't touched after a meal and passed them out to the children, Simon was astonished to watch them stuffing the bread into their mouths. "The scene is burnt into my mind."

Despite the difficult conditions and shortages of food, medicines, electricity and transportation, Cuba is trying to build tourism. The feeling from the people, according to UJA officials, is acceptance and survival. A law passed in 1996 allows foreign investors to own 100 percent of their businesses.

At the conclusion of the mission, participants learned that the Jewish people of Havana gather on Friday evenings for Kabbalat Shabbat, but because they cannot afford challah, they welcome Shabbat with left over matzah from the Passover donations. The UJA group decided to pool their contributions to provide them with challah, chicken, wine and candles. The group raised $18,000 - enough for Shabbat dinner for one year.


The Great Purim Epidemic

ADAPTED AND RETOLD BY HERSH GOLDMAN
Jewish Journal
I like listening to the stories old people tell. They have a lot of experiences and if a story stands out in their memories it's going to be an interesting one. This Purim story was told to me by an elderly Jewish doctor while he was giving me a general checkup. The doctor has long since passed on. But this, more or less, is the story about The Great Purim Epidemic. All the names have been changed.

There's one Purim (heh, heh) I'll never forget. I was just a little pitzeleh (pipsqueak) then. Oh, this was even before you were born. All the Jews in the city lived on just two streets, Birch and Lincoln Streets. Everybody knew everybody. We had two shuls. The Russian Jews davened (prayed) at one, that's where my family went. And there was the other where the Litvaks (Lithuanian Jews) went to pray. Sometimes my buddies and I would visit the Litvesheh shul when we didn't want our parents at the Russian shul to know what we were up to.

I was playing ball with my friends in an empty lot when we heard the shammes (sexton) of the Litvesheh shul calling, "Hey, boyiss. Hey, boyiss. Come here. I have something for you." He was standing on the shul steps with a hammer in his hand, and he asked if we would each like to make a quarter. A quarter was a big deal in those days. My mother wouldn't even send me to the store on an errand with that much money. We told the shammes that we'd do anything he wants. He led us into the shul and showed us the wooden bench that he was working on. He shook the bench so that it wobbled and creaked. He said, "This shmatteh (rag) you can say already kaddish for it. It should have been thrown out years ago. The shul says, "why spend money when you can fix the old bench." So all the time I'm fixing the bench and all the time somebody is hurting his toches (behind) on it. The only way to get a new bench is to break the old one." The shammes pulled his beard with both fists for emphasis. "I mean really break. You know how we bang and klop on Purim during the Megilla reading every time we hear 'Haman.' Well, this time I want you boyiss to do it extra hard, especially on this bench. If the bench lives through Purim we will be stuck with it for another year. But if you break it you will have a big mitzvah and a quarter for each of you."

We came to the shul for Purim and we banged on that old bench until our hands and feet were sore. The bench was a lot sturdier than we expected. One of us ran home and came back with a baseball bat. We took turns. We broke the bench alright. The people started yelling, "Throw them out. Throw them out before they destroy the whole shul." The shammes came over. We thought he was going to stick up for us. Instead, he threw us out. When we asked for our money the double-crosser slammed the door and locked us out. We said, "they can't do that to us and get away with it."

We found our way back into the shul through a small cellar window left unlocked. We had brought with us lots of black pepper for our mission of retribution. The shul was heated by a hot air system from the coal furnace in the basement up through the floor of the shul. We threw handful after handful of black pepper into the furnace. It wasn't long before the congregation was sneezing and wheezing. We could hear them from down in the basement. I don't know how those people managed to stay in shul for the whole Megilla reading.

All the Jews in the city had one doctor, Doctor Krankman. Everybody from the Litvesheh shul crowded at Dr. Krankman's house (also his office) to be treated for the "sneezing epidemic." The doctor saw us through his window as we sat on the rail fence in front of his house. He noticed us laughing as we watched the shul patients coming and going. The doctor called us aside and said, "I know you kids are mixed up in this. You better tell me exactly what you did if you know what's good for you." After we told him the whole story, Doctor Krankman scolded us and had us promise that we would never try anything like the "pepper prank" again. He sounded very angry and we were anxious to get away from him. "Wait! I'm not through with you," he called out as we were trying to leave. He said, "My business was never better." The doctor then smiled and gave us each 50 cents.


international news

Ethiopian Jews Coming Home

NANCY ZUCKERBROD
Washington Jewish Week

WASHINGTON (JTA) - Every day in Addis Ababa, Ethiopia, roughly 2,000 Jews come together in a crowded compound to learn about Jewish rituals and prayer, Israeli culture and Hebrew.

In a few months, these Ethiopians, known as Falash Mura, will have their prayers answered - the compound will close and they will go home to Zion.

"The Ethiopian government has been very cooperative," said Avi Granot, Israel's ambassador to Ethiopia. "Anyone who wants to leave Ethiopia can."

According to Israeli officials, some 3,500 Ethiopians who are believed to be Jewish and who are living in the northern province of Gondar, where Jews have historically resided, could also come to Israel within a year.

The Falash Mura are leaving the Ethiopian capital of Addis Ababa at a rate of 400 per month, according to Gadi Baltiansky, a spokesman for the Israeli Embassy in Washington. That's more than three times what the average rate of emigration from Ethiopia to Israel has been over the last few years.

Several American activists say the change in policy stems from a recent legal settlement between the Israeli government and the Israeli Ethiopian rights organization South Wing to Zion, among others.

But Baltiansky said it was a government decision that dates back to last June. He said it took time for Israeli officials to verify that the Ethiopians trying to go to Israel were of Jewish descent, which has apparently been verified.

"Their Judaism can't be questioned," he said.

The Falash Mura currently in Addis Ababa, or recent generations before them, converted to Christianity or assimilated out of Judaism. Israel deemed them not Jewish and left them behind in 1991, when it airlifted some 14,000 Jews out of Addis Ababa during Operation Solomon. This came seven years after the first airlift, Operation Moses.

Since then, the Falash Mura remaining in Ethiopia have returned to Judaism and live Orthodox lives centered around the compound. They are aided by the American Jewish Joint Distribution Committee and the North American Conference on Ethiopian Jewry.

That these Jews will finally be able to leave is "thrilling," said Rabbi Avis Miller, associate rabbi of Adas Israel Congregation in Washington, who visited Ethiopia in 1989.

With the plight of Ethiopian Jews waiting in Addis Ababa apparently near resolution, the Israeli government is turning its attention to Jews living in Gondar.

"We saw a community there that is in very critical condition. They are very sick," said Avraham Neguise, an Ethiopian Jewish activist who recently visited the region in northern Ethiopia, along with officials from the Jewish state.

Neguise said in a telephone interview that he met with a family of 11 that had buried five of their children in the past two years. Their journey to join other Falash Mura in the city of Gondar from the isolated region of Lower Quara, near the Sudanese border, was treacherous.

The Israeli envoy to Addis Ababa, Avi Granot, confirmed that assessment in a telephone interview.

Granot said the difficulty of the journey partially accounts for why it took so long for this group of approximately 1,000 Jews to get to Gondar.

The ambassador said another 2,000 Jews are still living in villages in Quara.

"Every effort is being made to secure the aliyah of the remaining Jews both in Gondar and in Quara,'' Granot said.


Easing of Iraq Crisis Doesn't Put Mideast Peace Back on Track

LAURA KING

HEBRON, West Bank (AP) - Squinting against the cold sunshine, Palestinian shopkeeper Abed Samir Isseileh chose his words carefully as he tried to explain how his outlook on the peace process had changed lately.

"Before, it was like a winter, but one that might be followed by spring," he said. "Now it seems like a winter that won't ever end.''

In recent weeks, the threat of a U.S. war with Iraq had cast a cloud over Israeli-Palestinian peace hopes and tarnished America's image among Palestinians. So reason would dictate that the easing of that crisis should brighten peace prospects and defuse anti-U.S. sentiment.

But a different, dark rule seems to apply here: When it looks like things ought to get better, they have a way of getting worse.

Since the U.N.-brokered pact on Iraq, Israel and the Palestinians have already quarreled over what constitutes a real peace overture. Tensions in the Palestinian lands, rather than diminishing, have spiked even higher. And many Palestinians still harbor deep doubts about America's ability to serve as a fair Mideast mediator.

"It's all part of the same question," said Isseileh, the Hebron shopkeeper, whose mattress-and-pillow store is in the shadow of a mosque where an Israeli settler gunned down 29 Muslim worshippers during dawn prayers four years ago Wednesday.

"The United States doesn't put pressure on Israel to abide by agreements as it did on Iraq," he said. "How can we trust America to be fair in all this?''

The fact that the Clinton administration refrained from what most Palestinians would have considered an unjust strike on Iraq did not do much to improve its standing.

"It was just a lot of showing off,'' scoffed Hebron laborer Hussein Nahaneh. "So they didn't attack - why were they throwing their weight around like that to begin with?''

Mideast peacemaking was frozen during the Iraq crisis, but there was little sign that either the Israelis or the Palestinians used the lull to consider new proposals.

Within hours of the weapons-inspections agreement in Baghdad, both sides were staking out familiar and inimical positions in their own long-running dispute.

Prime Minister Benjamin Netanyahu called for Camp David-style talks under U.S. auspices to try to reach a permanent peace agreement with the Palestinians.

The Palestinians could barely contain their irritation at what they considered grandstanding: They have long insisted such talks could take place only after promised Israeli troop pullbacks from the West Bank - something the prime minister knows all too well.

Palestinian officials, who say they expect a U.S. message Thursday that may herald a new initiative, made it clear they consider the ball to be in the Clinton administration's court.

The two sides did make what they described as progress on a secondary issue, toward the long-delayed opening of a Palestinian airport. But there was no sign of any easing of the overall, yearlong deadlock.

Had the Iraqi weapons-inspection standoff culminated in a U.S. strike, both Israel and the Palestinians would have had a lot to lose.

Israel faced the prospect, though perhaps remote, of becoming an Iraqi target, as it did during the 1991 Persian Gulf War. Yasser Arafat and his Palestinian Authority risked an explosion among their people that could have endangered Israel as well: potential out-of-control riots, and a new threat by the radical Islamic group Hamas to attack.

Both Israel and the Palestinians reacted to the Iraqi crisis with a measure of theatricality - but the theatrics overlaid some real fears.

Israeli leaders from Netanyahu on down said Palestinian shows of popular support for Iraq showed they weren't serious about peacemaking. But while the hard-line Israeli government may have seized on the Palestinian rallies to score public-relations points, many Israelis were genuinely rattled by the sight of protesters screaming, "Beloved Saddam, send your missiles to Tel Aviv!''

Palestinians, for their part, claimed Israel was exploiting the crisis, enjoying the respite from U.S. pressure to curb settlement-building and agree to a troop-pullback plan.

At the same time, though, Arafat reverted to a pattern of behavior that has infuriated Israel in the past: saying one thing and doing another. While officially forbidding pro-Iraq demonstrations, he did little to enforce the ban; his Fatah faction even organized some of the protests.

One reason that the rallies truly were hard to contain, however, was that they were fueled by Palestinian frustration over their own plight.

That anger has been much in evidence in recent days, with scenes reminiscent of the six-year intifadah: predawn Israeli sweeps of West Bank refugee camps, rough house-to-house searches, hails of stones from young Palestinians on the rooftops.

On Wednesday, in the Kalandia refugee camp north of Jerusalem, Israeli border police fired at a Palestinian mob menacing a trapped Israeli officer. No one was injured, but use of live ammunition is a drastic step, allowed only when troops are confronted with what they consider clear and present danger.

In Hebron, a frequent flashpoint for Israeli-Palestinian violence, the mood was ugly Wednesday as Israeli troops prevented a Palestinian fruit-and-vegetable vendor from leading his donkey-drawn cart too close to an Israeli settlement.

A sullen crowd watched soldiers jostling the wooden crates of oranges and potatoes. A young man with a handful of stones crouched on a nearby roof.

"I can't put my trust in the Americans or anyone else to help us,'' said 93-year-old Abed Hakim, rubbing his rheumy eyes. "Only Allah can solve our problems.''


letters to the editor

Don't Scapegoat Jews by Choice

Jonathan Sarna's insulting piece on people who convert to Judaism ("Committed Today, Divorced Tomorrow," Feb. 20) is a perfect example of why Jewish law prohibits the separation of these people into a separate category ("converts") that will only be used to make them second-class citizens within Jewry. Whether he realizes it or not, Sarna attempts to do just that!

However - to invoke and reverse his stereotypes - since Sarna is a "born Jew," he undoubtedly "subordinates" the religious aspects of Judaism and is "diffident about" halachic considerations. By his own admission, "ethnicity" is more important.

Sarna's study contains two basic flaws that should be evident to anyone with a critical eye:

(1) His sample of "born Jews" is restricted to the organized Jewish community - hence, the most involved "born Jews." Had he included "born Jews" who are unidentified, uninvolved, or completely hidden through assimilation, his findings would have been quite different.

(2) His sample of "converts" is restricted to those Jews who are willing to be labeled as such. I suspect that this favors people who convert via the liberal rather than the traditional branches of Judaism. Again, this skews the data.

Isn't it time that Jews stopped trying to deal with the problem of Jewish continuity by scapegoating Jews who weren't born Jewish?

Judith Antonelli
Brookline, MA
 


Police Chief is 'Too Nice' for Some in Webster

I am a resident of the town of Webster, and a friend of Chief Faer. I first met him when he was a part-time sergeant. He had gone to the neighboring town of Contoocook to fill the cruiser with gas, and I was stranded there because my truck had broken down. I saw the Webster Cruiser and flagged it down. I explained my predicament, and asked for a ride. He told me that he really wasn't supposed to, but he did anyway. That's the kind of man he is. A good, very good man.

One of the reasons - in my opinion - that Chief Faer has problems in this town is that he is a good man. Certainly a much better man than any of the three selectmen, and I feel they resent that. Another source of problems for him has nothing to do with his religion. He simply refuses to kiss up to the woman who has run the town for over 20 years as Town Administrator, or to be solicitous toward any of the "old time" residents. Chief Faer prefers to treat everyone equally. This is the way that a police officer is supposed to treat people, isn't it?

The Jewish Journal article of Feb. 6 quotes Selectman Richardson as saying "...Steve was moved up because he was the next guy in line." This is an absolute lie. When former Chief Roy retired - under a cloud of budget mismanagement - there was a selection process for the first time in Webster's history. Chief Faer was asked to submit a resume. After extensive research, it was found that he was the most qualified canditate.

I am not Jewish. I say that because some people in this town tend to get hostile toward the members of the Jewish Defense League [of Greater Boston] who have attended town meetings with Chief Faer. I want people to know that it's not just people of one particular religious belief who are supporting Chief Faer. It's people who just don't like the sneaky, devious, underhanded things that are being done in this town, and people that just plain like Chief Faer as a person. Because that's what it should be all about.

Anthony P. Costine
Webster, NH


local news

Interfaith Passover Seder Welcomes All

JUDITH KLEIN
Jewish Journal Staff

"When people do things together, they understand each other," believes Sandy Sheckman, assistant executive director of the Jewish Community Center of the North Shore and administrator of Seminars in Adult Jewish Education (SAJE). "It breaks down barriers and misunderstandings," she avows.

For these reasons, the JCC, SAJE, and the Jewish Federation of the North Shore are joining the New England Chapter of the Anti-Defamation League to host their second biannual joint interfaith seder on April 5 at the JCC. "Our goal is to invite non-Jews to experience a Jewish tradition and holiday, to feel welcome and learn," explains Sheckman. "If we invite people into our house &endash; in this case, the JCC - it furthers peace by stopping prejudice."

The cooperative effort grew out of A decision in 1995 by SAJE and the JCC to sponsor more interfaith programming. That year, they created a four-session series which featured Professor Marvin Wilson of Gordon College in Wenham, and attracted more than 500 people. Following on this success, the organizations joined with ADL in 1996 for the first joint seder, created an interfaith Sukkot celebration, and began germinating the impetus for an interfaith trip to Israel which just left this week.

An important component of the evening will be the presentation of the first Leonard Zakim Humanitarian Award to Rabbi Samuel Kenner of Temple Shalom in Salem and Deacon John Whipple of Star of the Sea Church in Marblehead for their work in furthering interfaith understanding. Zakim is the director of the ADL-New England Region and a prominent figure in the field of building tolerance and fighting bigotry. Under his direction, the ADL-New England Region has organized interfaith seders on the North Shore for six years as well as Black-Jewish and Irish-Jewish seders in the Greater Boston area.

The upcoming seder will accommodate 420 people. The evening will begin at 6 p.m. Anyone over the age of eight is invited to participate. A $5 fee will entitle guests to a full-course kosher seder dinner catered by Green Manor, though additional donations are requested. Rabbi Edgar Weinsberg of Temple Beth El will lead the service and Cantor Sara Geller will chant and sing. The Haggadah which will be used was created by the former San FrancisCo congregatIon of Rabbi David Meyer of Temple Emanu-El as a "family-friendly" inexpensive alternative to more costly versions. Meyer used the Haggadah to lead the first interfaith seder sponsored by the ADL on the North Shore six years ago.

Students from Gordon College, St. John's Prep in Danvers, and other schools are expected and invited to attend. Families and school groups can call 781-631-8330, ext 388 for reservations. The deadline for reservations is March 26. The interfaith seder is being subsidized by the Jewish Federation of the North Shore through the Trinitas Foundation.


SAJE's First Interfaith Journey to Israel Begins

BETTE WINEBLATT KEVA
Jewish Journal Staff

What began as adult Jewish enrichment classes here on the North Shore took a major leap forward this week. The developers of the popular 4-year-old SAJE series (Seminars for Adult Jewish Enrichment) carried their program across the seas into Israel on March 2, where Rabbi Samuel Kenner of Temple Shalom in Salem and Dr. Marvin Wilson of Gordon College in Wenham are leading program participants on an interfaith tour.

Even in the midst of the crisis which brought the US to the brink of war with Iraq a week before the group was to leave, none of the 30 participants who signed up for the program ever suggested that they wanted to drop out. On the contrary, according to SAJE Coordinator Sandy Sheckman, two more people enrolled, and others called her to say they hoped the trip wouldn't be canceled.

"I'm encouraged that these people are really serious," said Sheckman who has a duel role as assistant executive director of the Jewish Community Center of the North Shore. The JCCNS and SAJE planned the trip to coincide with Israel's 50th anniversary. The goal is for "Christians and Jews to rediscover their shared roots together." While much progress has been made in interfaith relations over the years, SAJE leaders say there are still misunderstandings and anti-Semitism. Sheckman wants to see "fewer barriers between people."

Arriving by Swiss Air, the group toured the Arab town of Jaffa, then stayed at the Carlton Tel Aviv overnight before heading for Caesarea.

Coincidentally, this trip is the 22nd time both Kenner and Wilson will have separately traveled to the Jewish State.

"I have seen the land in different contexts, predominantly with Christian groups," said Wilson. "In the Galilee, we will take a look at the life of Jesus and its impact on Jewish life. Copernium was the headquarters for his teaching. We will visit Nazareth where he grew up. Jesus both unites and divides people. He unites Christians and Jews; you cannot understand the Gospels until you understand the Jewishness of Jesus. Christians have to deal with Judaism."

"At the same time, the religion developed about Jesus, Christianity, was predicated over the watershed that divides Christians and Jews. Jesus in that sense becomes a very curious figure of history, uniting and dividing.

There will be a Christian service at the Mount of Beatitudes overlooking the Sea of Galilee. "We are going to consider the teachings of Jesus which are profoundly Jewish, including the Lord's Prayer, a very Jewish prayer."

The Jewish component of the tour will be led by Rabbi Kenner who was not available for comment while this story was being written.

Reverend Ruth Stallsmith will be among the participants. It will be her first trip to Israel. She will assist Dr. Wilson in leading a worship service and two baptisms in the Jordan River. She will also be involved in a Christian service on the Mount of Beatitudes, where Jesus is said to have given the Sermon on the Mount.

Rev. Stallsmith first became a student of Wilson's in 1985, taking a modern Jewish culture class. "I was devastated with the history of the Christian Church and the pain we caused the Jewish people. I fell in love with the Jewish people and their graciousness to me." The pastor became deeply involved in Jewish/ Christian dialogue and education since then. "That is where my heart is," she said.

Stallsmith followed the progress of negotiations between the US and Iraq over the past few weeks. Even before the trip began, it was a learning process for her to follow the news of possible chemical weapons attacks on the Israeli people,a fear that Israelis have had to live with every year of their short existence as a state. Stallsmith said she had no qualms about going to Israel, "only sympathy with the Israelis." She heads the 132 member Memorial United Methodist Church of Beverly.

Linda Lerner and Audrey Weinstein, two initiators of SAJE, are among the participants of the trip. On the itinerary are: visits to kibbutzim, Safed, Nazareth, Mt. Scopus, Western Wall, Citadel Museum, Church of Holy Sepulchre, Gethsemane and Mount of Olives, Yad Vashem, Supreme Court, Church of the Nativity in Bethlehem, Gush Etzion, Masada, Dead Sea, and finally, a Purim celebration in Jerusalem.

The interfaith trip grew out of the SAJE interfaith series of lectures by Wilson and a panel of North Shore religious leaders held in the fall of 1995 at Salem High School. "We realized the Jewish and non-Jewish communities wanted to pursue what we started, and not just drop it," said Sheckman.

The next SAJE series will be at Temple Beth Shalom of Peabody in May. It will deal with Jews who are mentally ill, alcoholic, abused or abusing.

 


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Brandeis, at 50, Returning to Jewish Roots

URIEL HEILMAN
The Jewish Advocate

As Brandeis University prepares to mark its 50th birthday, the Jewish-sponsored, nonsectarian university founded in Waltham the same year the State of Israel was established, appears to be experiencing a resurgence of Jewish life unparalleled in the school's brief history.

While the number of Jewish students at Brandeis has remained relatively constant in recent years, students and faculty alike point to an increase in Jewish activity on campus, a growing number of Jewish institutes sponsored by the university and a renewed interest in Jewish affairs and community as indicators that Brandeis is returning to its Jewish roots.

It is not difficult for longtime members of the Brandeis community to pinpoint the beginning of this Jewish resurgence: the 1990 resignation of former university president Evelyn Handler. During Handler's seven-year tenure, Brandeis reportedly lost considerable support in the Jewish community as a result of a drive toward diversification seen coming at the expense of its Jewish character. When interim president Stuart Altman donned a yarmulke during Brandeis' first commencement ceremonies after Handler's departure, it was considered a harbinger of change on campus.

But, says Jonathan Sarna, Joseph H. and Belle R. Braun Professor of American History at Brandeis, it was not until Jehudah Reinharz's assumption of the presidency in March 1994 that Brandeis took a crucial step back toward matters Jewish.

"President Reinharz has been able to articulate a vision for the university that makes its ties to the Jewish community central to what the university is about," said Sarna in a recent interview. "He glories in the university's Jewishness."

Born and raised in Israel, Reinharz is the first Brandeis alumnus to become president, and his close ties with Jewish leaders and academics in the United States and Israel are regarded as a boon for the university. Fund raising has increased, university administrators report, and during Reinharz's tenure more than 12 Jewish-related centers and institutes have been created at Brandeis.

The young president is being credited for wooing back into the fold Jewish supporters who had been estranged from Brandeis and attracting the support of big-name Jewish leaders nationwide, among them industrialists Charles Bronfman and Max Fisher and filmmaker Steven Spielberg.

"Brandeis is a microcosm of world Jewry, and this imposes special obligations upon us," Reinharz told The Advocate. "We are seen today by the Jewish community as the think tank and action center of the Jewish community."

In the past year alone, Brandeis has launched several programs to address Jewish issues, among them the Fisher Bernstein Institute on Jewish Leadership and Philanthropy, the Genesis Program for Jewish youth and the International Research Institute on Jewish Women. Brandeis' close association with the New Jewish High School in Waltham, which sits adjacent to the Brandeis campus and uses university facilities, is seen as reflecting the college's renewed focus on Jewish education.

'Huge identity problem'

While not everybody has been happy with Brandeis' turn back toward Jewish affairs, Reinharz remains unapologetic. "I define very clearly what Brandeis is, knowing full well that some people will not like it," he said. "Brandeis is unique. There is no other university which has service to the Jewish community as part of its mission."

For some, Brandeis' special role remains complex and ill-defined.

"Brandeis has a huge identity problem," said Elisheva Rovner, Hillel director for student activities and former president of the Orthodox Organization. "The conflict is that on the one hand Brandeis wants to maintain its unique role at the forefront of the Jewish community, while on the other it has a desire for diversity."

This conflict is reflected in the student body, according to Dahlia Kronish, student president of Brandeis Hillel.

"While students at other schools know they have to be active to remain Jewish, most people here figure that the simple act of being at Brandeis fulfills their need for a Jewish identity," she said. Slightly less than two-thirds of the student body is estimated to be Jewish.

Hillel Rabbi Albert Axelrad, who has been a fixture at Brandeis for 33 years, attributes the recent growth in Jewish student activity to the influx of greater numbers of traditional Jews.

"The yarmulke count on campus is higher than it has ever been," said Axelrad, who pointed to the burgeoning Orthodox community as the most impressive of those changes.

The Orthodox presence at Brandeis has more than tripled in the last decade, according to Brandeis Orthodox Organization student president Todd Kammerman. After students initiated a recruitment drive five years ago designed to appeal to day school and yeshiva graduates, the traditional community has grown by leaps and bounds, he said.

Shabbat services have grown so large that seating space has become a problem, prompting Reinharz to acknowledge that the creation of a new Hillel building to accommodate this growth is "clearly one of the next things we need to do."


Rabbi Says Human Cloning Could Benefit Mankind

LESLIE KATZ
Jewish Bulletin of Northern California

SAN FRANCISCO - Human cloning.

Wouldn't Jewish law prohibit such an act because it undermines the natural world God created?

Not necessarily. If used for therapeutic ends, the practice would be condoned by Jewish law, according to an Orthodox expert on Jewish medical ethics.

"If it's perfected with timexcloning could have tremendous benefits for mankind," said Rabbi Pinchas Lipner, speaking Saturday evening at the ninth annual International Conference on Jewish Medical Ethics in Burlingame.

During a nearly three-hour session at the Park Plaza Hotel, he joined Drs. Charles Epstein and Kenneth Shine and other rabbis in advancing a debate that has replayed itself in national headlines ever since the birth of Dolly, the now infamous cloned sheep.

Following the Scottish sheep's arrival in the world, reports on the specter of human cloning flooded the media, resulting in a flurry of legislative activity. The White House called for a five-year ban on cloning humans, and anti-cloning legislation was filed in the Senate.

But Saturday night, panelists urged the public and legislators to slow down, take a deep breath and determine what cloning would and would not mean. It is unlikely, they said, to mean we'll be bumping into exact duplicates of ourselves or Albert Einstein in the street anytime soon. In fact, one doctor explained, cloned organisms are not completely identical to those that spawned them.

But cloning could mean producing cells and tissues that could prove useful for people whose own specialized cells and tissues - bone marrow or liver, for example - are no longer viable.

Lipner argued that halachically there is no basis for disallowing human cloning. Most rabbis, he pointed out, consider the acquisition of knowledge for the sake of finding cures for human illnesses to be divinely sanctioned, if not mandated.

Because the Torah forbids standing idly by and not saving a human life, cloning, were it to be honed, could ultimately be viewed as an obligation.

And because Jewish law would consider cloning for certain purposes legal, Judaism would also view the practice as ethical.

"What is ethical in Judaism is legal, and what is legal is ethical," Lipner pointed out. "We don't divide the two."

In the Jewish view, chief among the potential benefits of human cloning would be helping infertile couples procreate. "In Judaism, having children is a very serious matter and families that can't have them could possibly [do so] through cloning," said Lipner, dean of San Francisco's Hebrew Academy and its Institute for Jewish Medical Ethics, which sponsors the conference.

Lipner also acknowledged, however, that human cloning could lead to unknown consequences. He urged taking a measured approach to research and developing moral, ethical and legal guidelines.

Banning a practice before fully understanding its implications, he added, would be wrong.

Earlier in the evening, Shine also addressed the current anti-cloning climate. He charged the press with whipping the public into a science fiction-inspired frenzy over the very notion of cloning.

"Whether it's Monica Lewinsky or Dolly, the media in this country gets into frenzies, and it's extremely difficult to determine what's reality," said Shine, president of the Institute of Medicine at the National Academy of Sciences in Washington, D.C.

"In a period of hype, people come along who want to ride the gravy train."

In examining the public outcry over the possibility of human cloning, Shine, who is also a clinical professor of medicine at Georgetown University Medical Center, addressed the important interplay between science and society. In his view, society must sometimes set limitations on the directions science takes.

As an example, he cited biological warfare, which is "doable from a scientific point of view but inappropriate from an ethical point of view."

On the other hand, he said that the increasing intrusion of politics and theology into science - he cited bans on embryo research as an example - has a chilling effect on progress.

"The result is that whole areas of science that could be beneficial, either as a result of a direct product or a spin-off, don't happen."

Shine agrees with the National Biomedical Advisory Commission, which has recommended a moratorium on the cloning of human beings until more information is gathered.

"We don't know if you clone someone, if you're going to have more congenital abnormalities, more genetic defects."

 

opinion

A Case for Pro-Active Conversion

GARY TOBIN
Cohen Center, Brandeis University

Jews do not have an intermarriage problem. Rather, they have the challenge of redefining the structure, meaning and purpose of Jewish civilization. The Jewish community must not fear that all of its children and grandchildren will be potential Gentiles. Instead it must embrace the belief that many Americans are potential Jews.

Because religious and ethnic walls are permeable, Judaism's rationale must be attractive to those who are born Jews, or they will choose to leave. And it must be attractive to those who were not born Jews who may choose to become part of the Jewish people. For Judaism to prosper in the marketplace of America's religions, it must actively promote conversions, creating a process that is open, interesting, exhilarating and accessible.

Whether or not Judaism will open its gates is a key question for the future of Jewish life in America. Jews will continue to intermarry and some will leave Judaism, no matter how successful identity and community-building efforts are. Without efforts to grow the Jewish community will stagnate. A strong core of two or three million Jews can survive by recreating a self-imposed psychological ghetto. They can continue to live under a siege mentality, always worried about who they lose, the threat of survival and the possibility that they will be destroyed. Jews are now worried that the stranger will destroy them from within, not from without, and the commentators refer to "genocide through intermarriage."

The Jewish community cannot be strong and vibrant without growth. Keeping destruction at bay is not equivalent to growth, which involves expansion, evolution into new forms and increases in size and variety. Jews in America must do something that Jews have not approached actively for a very long time - devise strategies for including others.

Promoting conversion must take place in two realms. The first is promoting religious conversion. This is the process through which individuals become part of Judaism as a religion by understanding its laws, its forms of worship, its ritual observance and so on. Most discussions of conversion focus on religious conversion. But the Jewish comunity must also promote cultural conversion. Cultural conversion takes place through the adoption of values and norms of Jewish peoplehood - the customs in terms of language, history, mythology, self-views and institutional participation.

Actively promoting conversion will require the abandonment of the current approach of grudging acceptance of those who can clear all the hurdles that a hostile institutional and organizational network puts in front of those who might consider being Jews. Judaism must have new adherents, supporters and practioners. Jews cannot continue to hoard their heritage as a birthright only and inhibit others from swelling and reinvigorating their ranks. If Jews are strong, they will be able to acculturate others into their people's story and future. If Jews are too weak and too afraid to take the risk of recruiting and helping others to be Jews, that fear will create a self-fulfilling prophecy whereby Judaism diminishes by degree. The organized Jewish community is so obsessed with intermarriage weakening the state of Jewish life that it will help create that which it fears the most.

It is important for Jews to maintain the normative imperative to marry other Jews. The growth and vitality of the Jewish community depend on the formation of Jewish households and the transmission of the Jewish religious and cultural traditions within the family. The radical change that is necessary, however, is the departure from believing or emphasizing that marrying a born Jew is preferable to marrying a Jew by conversion. The Jewish community cannot send a message that a born Jew is a better Jew, a preferable marriage partner or more legitimate than a Jew who chooses Judaism. The problem is subtle and profound. Conversion cannot be promoted as a defense, a stop-gap, a line of last resort, the second best choice to marrying somebody who was born Jewish. Conversion must be advocated as equal, an equivalent and desirable choice for the Jewish people. The prevention strategy implies that Jews by conversion are second best.

Does anyone really believe that the non-Jew, a potential convert, does not hear this messageÉ "First marry a born Jew. If that doesn't work out, then and only then, marry a convert, which is better than the disease of a mixed marriage?" Protestations that this is not the message, that converts are fully part of the Jewish people, that the Jewish community welcomes them, considers them the same as born Jews, are a denial of the messages that are often sent.

Jews should declare that it is good for Jews to marry other Jews. There need be no shame, apologies or second-guessing about saying that the formation of the Jewish family is a powerfully positive event and that an unambiguous Jewish household provides a rich framework for life. The Jewish community must, of course, help provide that rich fabric and a meaningful Judaism.

To then say that the preferable entrance to that world is through the bloodline creates an implicit inequality in the merit of both the marriage and the family. Judaism must open up its psychological and institutional gates for real. Standards should be maintained for ritual conversion. But the suspicion, testing, second-guessing and reluctance need to be discarded now.

Gary Tobin is the director of Brandeis University's Center for Modern Jewish Studies, and author of the forthcoming book, "Opening the Gates: How Active Conversion Can Revitalize the Jewish Community." This article was reprinted with permission from JTS Magazine. On Feb. 20, an opposing view by Brandeis Prof. Jonathan Sarna, was published here.


Reprinted from JTS Magazine


A Woman's Voice

Spinning the Web

MARLENE ADLER MARKS

After spending months moderating a weekly chat room in America On Line's Jewish section, I finally found Emes, someone I could really talk to.

It happened a few weeks ago, following an hour of lively conversation about Monica Lewinsky: Is she a "Nice Jewish Girl" or not? Naturally, given the red hot nature of the news surrounding her and President Clinton, everyone had an opinion, even those who pretended to be unaware that Monica was Jewish. ("Polish, right?" was the general first response.)

More than 40 people usually show up for these nightly national gabfests timed to distract those on the East Coast from the first half hour of Jay Leno. I've come to enjoy the hour I spend there, though it does remind me of the year I spent as a high school substitute teacher. You have to keep the kids in line.

I keep the topics upbeat but religiously generic. This is not because chat room attendees are agnostics or disinterested in spiritual affairs. Quite the contrary. They are all devout, all definite, all completely self-assured. They will defend until the rooster crows a point of view, whether about God, or kashrut or anything else, including the absence of Israelis in the ice dancing competition at Nagano.

I steer the group away from issues of contemporary religious politics, but rarely succeed for long. Jew fighting Jew is catnip; some can't resist.

It was different months ago. When I first began hosting the chats, the custom of a nightly topic was honored more in the breech. For a few weeks my chats were filled with scary anti-Semites shouting (all caps is a shout) HEIL HITLER. Boy, were we Jews polite to each other then!

But these days, since I've learned how to use my Tough Jewish Broad power to take control of a room (I cry to the nearest AOL official who ejects them forcibly), the anti-Semites are gone. And I've learned that, left to themselves, without a common enemy, a room full of Jewish strangers will quickly deteriorate into bitter intramural battles over "Who is a Jew?"

Really. Every single week I have to break up verbal fist fights between otherwise educated men and women over some minor issue of tradition or biblical hiccup. The words that we use toward each other's conversions (- "You're treif," someone called out), our husbands and lovers, our children, would make your kindergarten teacher send the provocateurs to the corner for a time-out. Every subject &emdash; whether it's the conduct of today's Jewish teens, the problems of singles or the course of Middle East peace, is attributed by some to the Reform policy of "patrilineal descent" or the Orthodox rabbis in Israel calling liberal Jews "criminals."

Not everyone of course is clambering for a duel, but if there's one thing about chats, they're no holds barred. Most of my guests usually stand silent (maybe they are on the West Coast where they can watch "Friends" yet still keep one eye cocked on the computer screen), but I know they are out there. In chat rooms, you know who is with you because the screen name is listed on a roster in the right hand corner.

They are there in more than name only: It sounds eerie, but though I can't see them, I always feel their eyes peeled on me. Chat room participants are activists by nature, and nuanced listeners. They are ready to pounce on a factual misstatement ("Your statistical pool is too small," said "LegalStats" the other day, when we discussed the topic of Jewish singles), and to take umbrage at some perceived slight or innuendo.

In a chat room, punctuation is the emotional coin of the realm. We express ourselves with colons, semi-colons, commas and parentheses. My guests often hear heavy breathing in the drop of a comma or a missing ;-) (chat room code for "smile.") At the same time we love to laugh. Chat room activists love a good joke - "lol" means "laugh out loud", though my friend Allen thought it meant "lots of love" and got scared away. A chat room can be as riotous as a Borscht Belt evening with [the late] Henny Youngman. You should hear 40 people going "lol" "lol" "lol!!!!!!!" - at a punch line.

Beyond being hall monitor, a chat room host is a position of power, the sole power to TYPE IN CAPITAL LETTERS. "THAT'S IT," I'll say, "NO TALK ABOUT THE NEEMAN COMMISSION FOR 10 MINUTES." Using my moniker, Wmnsvoice, I type away frantically, trying to keep the Lower Cases from killing each other. In the anarchy of the chat room, CAPITAL LETTERS CARRY SEX APPEAL.

And that's how I met Emes. The Lewinsky conversation was almost over, but the heat was still high: my computer monitor was filled with screen names talking excitedly back and forth about what it might mean to the world that the White House intern was Jewish, and whether assmilation and intermarriage were somehow to blame. About 10 minutes to the hour, I began to speak privately with those who were about to leave. I ask if they have other subjects for future weeks.

Emes, in a surprise move, asked about me. Did I have children? I said I was raising a daughter. Emes spoke of sons, the same age. We sympathized about the teenage years. I said I was alone. Emes too was alone.

I felt the strange stirrings people often talk about in chat rooms but I have never known. You meet a stranger across a crowded chat room. And somehow you know... So this is why millions come on line, I thought. I started to ask Emes where he lived, you know, small talk. I wondered how tall he was.

"My husband just moved out," she said.

Good thing no one could see me laugh. lol. lol. lol!!!!

 

 


Marlene Adler Marks is a columnist for the Jewish Journal of Los Angeles. She hosts the America On Line chat Thursdays at11 p.m. EST. Her email address is wmnsvoice@aol.com

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